My Dearest Friend,
Overcoming emotional turmoil is about knowing that we are stronger than our emotions. As children we are taught to fear our emotions, to push them down, aside, away… anywhere but here, maybe we’ll deal with this later, we were taught. This gives away our power to what we are feeling, and we then become slaves to our emotions.
The truth is that by sitting with what we’re feeling makes us stronger. Breathing, crying, trembling, as we’re feeling what we’re feeling – and feeling it fully – is walking through the shadow of death. It feels like death. It is not death. It is merely a shadow.
Holding and loving ourselves mentally and even physically as we would love a child who has a scraped knee; while we feel our feelings quells the pain of the emotions. It’s like riding a wave. It will rise up in a crest, and that’s when we most feel like we cannot handle it. That is precisely when we most need to keep riding, because like the wave it then crashes. Have faith that others have survived the wave. Have faith that you can, too.
My dearest friend, know that you are far more resilient than your feelings. By pushing them away, they only become more scary. Like the shadows in the dark, when you turn on the light and look at them, you will see that the scary shadow no longer exists. See the shadows for what they are: mere illusions. These shadows are not you. You are not your emotions. Love yourself while you ride the emotional waves and turn on the lights. You are worthy of love. You are worthy of loving you.
Sometimes these emotions can pop up at the seemingly most inopportune times. Ride their wave as much as you can. Like our phyical muscles, our emotional muscles must be strengthened through repeated overloading. Build your strength. Strengthen your emotional resiliency. Ride more waves. Love yourself more deeply.
These are the keys to open your cage. There can be many layers and sometimes it can feel like they are endless. Sometimes it feels like you’ve already done this (This, again?!) Keep riding and keep turning on the light. Keep loving and being gentle with yourself.
Just because others have not loved you the way you needed to be loved does NOT make you unlovable, broken, or unworthy. They couldn’t love you for you because they didn’t know how to love themselves for themselves. No one taught them, either!
So my love, love you for all of you. Even the “shadows,” turn on the light and love. You will see that the shadows are where you were taught to fear yourself. The shadows hide your strengths, your gifts, your greatest contributions to the world. Fear them, not.
My dearest friend, the magic is in you loving and accepting yourself for yourself. This is the alchemy. This is the turning of coal into gold.
Go forth with your light on. Be your Golden self. Love you. Hold your inner child close, do for her what no one else has. Love her. Fully. I know you and I know you can do this.
In Love, Light & Faith,
P.S. When you fall in “just keep swimming,” and get back on top of that wave!
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