Overcoming emotional turmoil

My Dearest Friend,

Overcoming emotional turmoil is about knowing that we are stronger than our emotions.  As children we are taught to fear our emotions,  to push them down,  aside,  away… anywhere but here, maybe we’ll deal with this later, we were taught. This gives away our power to what we are feeling, and we then become slaves to our emotions.

The truth is that by sitting with what we’re feeling makes us stronger.  Breathing,  crying,  trembling, as we’re feeling what we’re feeling – and feeling it fully – is walking through the shadow of death.  It feels like death.  It is not death. It is merely a shadow.

Holding and loving ourselves mentally and even physically as we would love a child who has a scraped knee; while we feel our feelings quells the pain of the emotions.  It’s like riding a wave.  It will rise up in a crest, and that’s when we most feel like we cannot handle it. That is precisely when we most need to keep riding, because like the wave it then crashes.  Have faith that others have survived the wave.  Have faith that you can, too.

My dearest friend,  know that you are far more resilient than your feelings.  By pushing them away, they only become more scary. Like the shadows in the dark, when you turn on the light and look at them, you will see that the scary shadow no longer exists.   See the shadows for what they are: mere illusions. These shadows are not you.  You are not your emotions.  Love yourself while you ride the emotional waves and turn on the lights.  You are worthy of love. You are worthy of loving you.

Sometimes these emotions can pop up at the seemingly most inopportune times.  Ride their wave as much as you can.  Like our phyical muscles, our emotional muscles must be strengthened through repeated overloading.  Build your strength. Strengthen your emotional resiliency.  Ride more waves. Love yourself more deeply.

These are the keys to open your cage.  There can be many layers and sometimes it can feel like they are endless.  Sometimes it feels like you’ve already done this (This, again?!) Keep riding and keep turning on the light.  Keep loving and being gentle with yourself.

Just because others have not loved you the way you needed to be loved does NOT make you unlovable, broken, or unworthy. They couldn’t love you for you because they didn’t know how to love themselves for themselves. No one taught them, either!

So my love, love you for all of you. Even the “shadows,” turn on the light and love. You will see that the shadows are where you were taught to fear yourself. The shadows hide your strengths, your gifts, your greatest contributions to the world. Fear them, not.

My dearest friend, the magic is in you loving and accepting yourself for yourself.  This is the alchemy. This is the turning of coal into gold.

Go forth with your light on.  Be your Golden self. Love you.  Hold your inner child close, do for her what no one else has.  Love her. Fully.  I know you and I know you can do this.

In Love, Light & Faith,


P.S. When you fall in  “just keep swimming,” and get back on top of that wave!


Photo credit: © Willyambradberry

Published by Tiffany

Writing out my thoughts has helped me to gain a new perspective of myself. In sharing these writings, it is my hope to help others to better understand themselves. It is my belief that with each of us who chooses this path of greater understanding of thy self, that it inspires others to do the same. This building momentum is the force that drives me to share, for in my vulnerability, I find my strength. I believe that you can also find yours there. ~~~In reading some of my posts, you will see that growth is not always pretty. It is in breaking apart and coming undone that a seed sprouts and breaks free of its own captivity. It is also out of mud that the lotus blossoms. ~~~Please join me in seeing the beauty of growth within the deconstruction of our limiting beliefs. ~~T.C.

9 thoughts on “Overcoming emotional turmoil

  1. Wow Tiffany, I thought I had commented on this before, guess not, have read it several times, and was kind of overwhelmed, maybe that’s why I was silent. So much widom here, I am learning not to guage my value and self- worth on what my wife expresses towards me… it is difficult but liberating, the other nite I felt totally rejected, but I held my tongue, turned in early and road that wave all night, the following morning we had the most incredibly open and honest convesation. Then we went to Yorktown Battlefield to get our lifetime “Geezer” (senior lol!) passes and stopped at Cracker Barrel to grab a bite and sit out the tunnel traffic. Converstion part II, ensued and I found myself crying my eyes out in public and I didn’t care.. it was cleansing and we are getting along so much better.
    Maybe this shouldhave gone in an email. It there some kinda unwritten post ettiquit.sic? that says comments should be kept short?
    Love always, ❤ Ken
    PS, hope your move goes smoothly! 😊😆

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    1. Ken, I say write what you want to write where you want to! If helping to post these happenings in a comment helps you and your relationship, I say post away! (I think you need your own blog, but that’s for another day). Thank you so much, Ken, for willing to be so vulnerable. Great job in riding the wave, you see now how it pays off in the a very quick way! Much love! Tiffany


    1. Thank you! This was when my blog was still very new as in within the first month. It’s great that you liked it because it lead me to read it, having not recognized the content by the title. A good friend of mine needed to read these words and so I was able to send him the link… thank you for finding it, liking it and bringing it to my attention! ❤


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