Full moon, Blue moon

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And in my darkest moment, fetal and weeping
The moon tells me a secret – my confidant
As full and bright as I am
This light is not my own and
A million light reflections pass over me
Its source is bright and endless
She resuscitates the hopeless
Without her, we are lifeless satellites drifting
-Tool “Reflections”

The full moon shines on the areas where we need to work.

The blue moon,  the second full moon in the same calendar month,  is an intensification of the regular full moon.  So your “stuff” will be magnified,  calling you to look at it, acknowledge it and ultimately to love it.

It can be challenging to love the parts of us we were taught to hate.  Pain,  resistance,  low energy, anger and sadness (to name a few) are the parts of us that need love the most.

Wrapping all of our unwanted parts in love after getting to the heart of the matter,  reduces and can dissolve the pain.

Only you can cry the tears you need to cry.  Only you can love you the way you need to be loved.

So love on you tonight.  Thank your pain,  it shows you the way.

Namaste

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Reblog: Give Me a 100 Proof Love -Or Nothing At All

I could not have said this more beautifully or eloquently myself. Thank you, Kate Rose!

 

I simply love myself and my life with a unbridled never ending passion, and it’s that same passionate love that I would extend to someone I was involved with. The love that we have for ourselves and the love that we are able to extend to another is really one and the same.

This is the key. When we can show ourselves unconditional love, then we wouldn’t expect anything less from anyone else. I already know that I am worthy and deserving of the love of others—I don’t see it as my job to try to prove that to someone else. If someone doesn’t love me, or find the value in who I am as a person then those are the very people that don’t belong in my life.

I’ve come to realize that the very love we seek, and the one that we deserve the most, is also the very one we won’t have to convince anyone of. We won’t have to feel torn, or stuck between what we want and what someone else is willing to give us. We won’t have to wonder or guess at what they are thinking or feeling—and we most certainly won’t feel fear that someone else would be able to steal them away from us.

100 Proof love isn’t casual, or traditional. It’s the kind of love that will stain our skin and leaves ashes in its wake. It will ruin us forever because after 100 proof, everything else just seems weak and transparent. A love like this is crazy wild beautiful; it’s bare skin and falling hot rain, it’s blueberry kisses and lemonade vodka, it’s the pulse of heat against our collar bone, and the desire that strums a beat throughout our entire body.

It’s the stuff of dreams, and the best we will ever have.

Give Me a 100 Proof Love -Or Nothing At All.

Forty-eight Pounds

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10 pounds of shame & guilt
10 pounds of blame
10 pounds of self-loathing & self-disgust
10 pounds of anger
8 pounds of sadness
Saying hello and welcome to 48 pounds of gold in the form of self-love! Today, I love me.
Namaste’
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The Luckiest Fish

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“Remember that sometimes not getting what you want is a stroke of luck.”
– The Dali Lama

Even when for the best, there are times during the end of a relationship where former partners can have low points when feelings of rejection, depression, unworthiness and failure (to name a few) crop up. Separation and divorce seem to amplify those feelings.

Today, I had the pleasure of working with a woman who shared the paradigm shift that helped to release her from these harsh feelings. While I do not know her back story I do know that when I saw her several months ago this woman was quite upset about getting divorced. Today she explained to me that she was recently lamenting about her 2 “failed” marriages that ended in divorce. Her friend then turned to her and said, “but you’re the luckiest fish in the world. You got away, twice.”

If you’re happy in your relationship, then please by all means, stay (really, why would you want to leave?). However, if you are miserable and only making everyone else miserable because of it, then maybe it’s time to move to different waters. So swim, my friends. Enjoy the sea. Enjoy your freedom. Life is meant to be lived freely and happily, not caught on a hook of unhappiness.

Namaste.

Author’s Note: Both my ex and I agree that we are happier apart than together. Though we had some rough spots pre- and post-separation, we have remained mostly amicable throughout the process. For this reason alone, I do feel that I am lucky.

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A Simple Question to Help Change Habits

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“Everything in your life is a reflection of a choice you have made.  If you want a different result, make a different choice.” -Unknown

Recently, I began to ask myself a simple question when making a choice, “Does this (action or non-action) help me or hurt me?” I have started using this technique for most choices I make during the day. From things as simple as putting my laundry away now or later to do I want to go to this event, to what do I want to eat or do with my day.

If the answer is “help me,” then I have the green light to move forward freely.

If the answer is “hurt me” sometimes I then choose differently. However, being a bit rebellious person, sometimes I find myself wanting to continue on the path that I have determined will “hurt me.” My next question is then, “is it worth it?”

I am learning to love myself. Someone who loves herself does not do things to hurt herself.

Namaste.

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The Still Quiet Voice Within

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“And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom.”

Anaïs Nin

Only you can cry your tears, dear. No one else can cry them for you. Holding your pain in only hurts you. This is why your chest is tight.

Each person has a plot of the garden of life to tend to. Only you can pull the weeds you are meant to pull. You cannot pull weeds for others and others cannot pull weeds for you. In your garden you are both the Creator and the Destroyer. You choose what lives and you choose what dies.

Let go of these weeds, my child. It prevents you from grasping the beauty of love. You hold onto the weeds in fear. But fear not, for you are loved. Fear not, for you are loved more than you can currently conceive. By holding onto the weeds, you are only are holding onto the pain.

You see, you have a choice, my dear. You can hold onto the fear or you can let it go and allow the light of Love to shine throughout your being.

Love is in the letting go. 

Love is in the opening of your soul. 

Love is in the laugh that tickles your throat. 

Love is in the wind that caresses your skin. 

Love is in the smiles exchanged with others. 

Love is not conditional. 

Love does not depend on the weather. 

Love does not depend on how others treat you. 

You have a choice, my dear. 

You can hold onto the fear or you can allow the light of Love to shine.

Yes, sometimes it is important to surrender into the fear, the sadness, the anger. Allow it to stop time and bring you to your knees. It is in the surrender that you see it for what it is. Nothing. In the face of Love, fear does not exist.

Focus on what you want to have more of in your life. Give gratitude for what you do have. What you water and pay attention to grows.

So let go, my dear.

Cry your tears.

Sow your seeds.

Pull your weeds.

Open your soul to Love.

Water what you want to grow.

Yes, it is that simple.

So be it.

From The Still Quiet Voice Within

Namaste

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