“Remember that sometimes not getting what you want is a stroke of luck.”
– The Dali Lama
Even when for the best, there are times during the end of a relationship where former partners can have low points when feelings of rejection, depression, unworthiness and failure (to name a few) crop up. Separation and divorce seem to amplify those feelings.
Today, I had the pleasure of working with a woman who shared the paradigm shift that helped to release her from these harsh feelings. While I do not know her back story I do know that when I saw her several months ago this woman was quite upset about getting divorced. Today she explained to me that she was recently lamenting about her 2 “failed” marriages that ended in divorce. Her friend then turned to her and said, “but you’re the luckiest fish in the world. You got away, twice.”
If you’re happy in your relationship, then please by all means, stay (really, why would you want to leave?). However, if you are miserable and only making everyone else miserable because of it, then maybe it’s time to move to different waters. So swim, my friends. Enjoy the sea. Enjoy your freedom. Life is meant to be lived freely and happily, not caught on a hook of unhappiness.
Author’s Note: Both my ex and I agree that we are happier apart than together. Though we had some rough spots pre- and post-separation, we have remained mostly amicable throughout the process. For this reason alone, I do feel that I am lucky.
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