Being a superhero (to save myself)

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I often saw myself as the damsel in distress. Perhaps it was because inside of me lived the “evil stepmother.” Regardless of how well I walked the line, there was always something I could have done better. On my face I wore a smile, while on the inside I belittled myself. Most of my life, from the time I was 10 years old, I wanted someone to save me.

In the past year, I have walked through the valley, over hot coals and sometimes broken glass; the broken, smoldering shadows of myself have haunted me. I called out to my knight in shining armor to save me. I looked for him on silver horses. I sought him in bars, online dating, in friends, in friends of friends, even passers-by. I seek no more.

After a series of events, I have discovered that if I want to be saved, then I need to be the one to rise up and save myself. While I have significantly improved my self-care (and self-love) over the past year, there are still holes in my dam. I see now that if I want to be saved, that I need to get my hands and feet dirty to dig myself out of my self-imposed pit of shit.

Yes, I still silently wait for Tony Stark. However, I am saving myself now, I’m not waiting for him to save me.

Yes, I still want a partner in crime fighting. Flying is fun, and it’s an experience that can be shared.

Yes, I still desire to be desired. Superheroes still like to be validated and vulnerable, too.

(Meanwhile, back at the ranch) Until Tony arrives, I am stepping into my power now. I am stepping into my own suit of armor, wielding my own shield and sword to slay the dragons of illusion that blur my vision of the truth. For it is only I that can determine what to cut and what to keep.

My armory includes daily work that includes:

The Four Agreements (especially #4: Always do my best)

The Simple Prayer of St. Francis

Constant Prayer as needs arise

Constant grounding and severing of “cords”

Daily meditation and mini-meditations throughout the day

Physical Activity

Journaling: Gratitude and Joy as well as “de-stressing”

Listening to music that makes my heart sing (and makes me sing)

Writing

Eating (mostly) healthy for me foods (this, I believe, differs by person)

Weekly/monthly work that includes:

Spiritual Counseling

Dancing

Self-help books (currently: Waking the Tiger: Healing Trauma by Peter Levine)

Sharing my healing process with others

Please join me in being your own superhero! Let’s fly!

Namaste.

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the fear of death keeps us from living not dying

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The fear of death keeps us from living, not dying.

Paul C. Round

It is our fear of death that keeps us from stepping out of our comfort zones into our greatness.  For us to gain in life, there are parts of it that we must be willing to lose.  The parts we leave behind are those parts that no longer serve us.  They can feel like a security blanket, so in a way,  we can feel vulnerable without them. There is also often a grieving process involved in release,  in a way,  we do die. However, it is the death of that which no longer serves.  This grief can be temporary,  if we allow it to be.

Let’s take a look at the natural world where animals “let go” in order to gain:

A snake sheds its skin so that it may release that which no longer serves it and so that it may begin anew.

The caterpillar must be willing to let itself die  as a caterpillar,  so that it may enter into the void of the chrysalis so that it may transform and emerge as a butterfly.

Whoever tries to keep their life will lose it, and whoever loses their life will preserve it.

Luke 17:33

By giving our fears over to God, we may release that which holds us back. In letting go,  we step more into our power.

Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, ‘Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?’ Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.

By holding onto our fears,  we block our own freedom. When we choose fear over our greatness,  we keep ourselves in bondage. Through surrender,  we cut away these self-imposed limitations.

Just for today, I choose to release my fears about my greatness and walk in my strength. Please join me!

Namaste

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What we push away persists

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Find your quiet center of life and write from that to the world.
Sarah Orne Jewett

What we push away persists.

Surrender into the feelings with the faith that you will survive this.

It is in your surrender that you find the feelings begin to dissolve.

Hold yourself in this space while you breathe.

Continue to “breathe in the quiet center” until the feelings are gone.

Your next breath is more free.

Rinse and repeat.

Each time you move into your feelings,  instead of away from them,  you develop a greater mastery of your own inner world.

Your outer world is a direct reflection of your inner world.

Peace, love and happiness are yours to hold. It’s your choice,  babe.

Namaste.

PS I have since discovered this great video by Teal Swan, she goes further into this process.

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Falling in love

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Like a newborn baby, I swaddle in love all of the parts of me that feel:

vulnerable

abandoned

unwanted

undesirable

I wrap my heart around those pieces that feel:

broken

afraid to be naked, exposed or seen

afraid to love…and to be loved…and to receive or give love.

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With each moment that I allow more love for me, the more I am able to love you.

I give love to those parts of me that have held me back. They did so, out of the only love they ever knew, which was fear. Now they receive my attention and the tension resolves. They melt like butter in the hot sun of my own love.

Please join me today is giving yourself a little bit more love, compassion and grace. The small things do add up.

Receive your own gifts. For as we each learn to receive our own love for ourselves,  we free ourselves to both give more love to and receive more love from others.

Namaste

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Sometimes Things Happen

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Sometimes things happen:

to show us how far we’ve come … to show us where we have yet to go

to show us how much we love ourselves … to show us where we need to

to show us where we feel worthy … to show us where we don’t

to show us that we do indeed have a choice … to show us where we chose before

to show us a new path we had not thought of … to show us where we keep doing the same thing

to show us where we are in resistance … to show us where we are flexible

to show us where our strengths lay … to show us where we are weak

to show us our truth … to show us where we lie

to show us where we are supported … to show us where we feel we need support

to show us how resilient we are … to show us where we want to give up

to show us where we want to freeze and stop … to show us where we want to keep going or start

to show us where we are all connected … to show us where we believe we are all separate

Sometimes things happen. Things that make you go…hmmm!

Namaste

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Feminism: The Crazy Notion that We’re All Equal

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We’re all in the same boat. When the port side of the ship is underwater, how long before the whole ship sinks? We cannot continue to allow gender, or any, inequality and expect to continue to float.

Tiffany Bertolacci

I love Hermoine’s character.  After seeing this speech last year,  I absolutely fell in love with the woman who portrays her, Emma Watson. In this video, she receives a standing ovation from the ambassadors of the UN after she explains how gender inequality harms EVERY-ONE. 

She posits, “If not me, then who? If not now, then when?”

Today I ask myself the same.

Namaste.

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