Loving the hurt

ID-10017289Like a skinned knee, the parts of us that hurt need love. Maybe the hurts are physical, maybe they are emotional. Maybe the parts that hurt are from our judgments, our thoughts, our misconceptions. While not easy to do, especially at first (or the first 358 times, it may seem), seeing that part of yourself that is in pain and giving it love can be incredibly healing.

There are many reasons that we may hold onto our hurt. Maybe it started when you were hungry as a baby, or not held enough. Maybe it was when people laughed at your mismatched socks in 3rd grade. Maybe it was from being outright abused and neglected. By loving that part of us that is in pain, we can walk around less wounded…and we are less likely to cause the wounding of others because hurt people hurt people.

When we are hurt we hold onto the darkness and the disbelief in compassion. By opening ourselves up to the pain and loving it instead of ignoring it, we can heal the hurt. Just as a surgical wound needs attention, our emotional wounds need it, too.

Give love to the irritated parts (imagine they are a little child or baby, if you need to). The part of you that gets irritated when you think about someone else needs love just as much as the “happy” and sunshine, rainbow pooping parts that can do no wrong. By accepting that it is okay to be irritated with someone else, we free ourselves from guilt, shame and the stacking effect that occurs when we suppress our emotions and sweep them under the rug.

Love you. Love you like no one else can. Love you for no reason at all, except that you are you. It sets us all free…bit by lovely bit.


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Published by Tiffany

Writing out my thoughts has helped me to gain a new perspective of myself. In sharing these writings, it is my hope to help others to better understand themselves. It is my belief that with each of us who chooses this path of greater understanding of thy self, that it inspires others to do the same. This building momentum is the force that drives me to share, for in my vulnerability, I find my strength. I believe that you can also find yours there. ~~~In reading some of my posts, you will see that growth is not always pretty. It is in breaking apart and coming undone that a seed sprouts and breaks free of its own captivity. It is also out of mud that the lotus blossoms. ~~~Please join me in seeing the beauty of growth within the deconstruction of our limiting beliefs. ~~T.C.

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