Self-Love: Giving & Receiving Grace


I’m confident that in every point of your life, you have done the best you could do with what you had. If we had every resource we needed at 100% all of the time, life would only be smooth sailing. However, it is by repeated trials that we see our strength. I believe that we all do the best that we can with what we have in any given moment. After all, who really sets out to fail?

This poem is about compassion and forgiveness. It is about putting things into perspective, without going into the details of the story.

May you see yourself somewhere and begin to clear away your inner turmoil. (See this blog for an example of a way to clear emotional pain).

By transmuting the pain of shame, guilt, remorse and regret, we remove the obstacles to our inner health and the whole world benefits. As hurt people, hurt people, the more each of us heals our “wounds,” the fewer wounds we inflict on others. The more we shine our inner lights, the more we give others permission to do the same.


If I could have done better, I would have.
Know that:

in my weakness,
what you saw was the most strength I could muster.

in my fear,
what I presented to you was the most valor I could pull up from my bootstraps.

in my anger,
that was the most compassion I had.

in my haste,
that was the least I could rush.

in my darkness,
that was the most happiness I could share.

in the quicksand and feeling trapped,
that was the most calm I could be.

in my grief, that was the biggest smile I could create.

in my pain,
that was the most love I could express.

If I could have done better,
I would have.

Knowing that I did the best I could do,
releases the guilt.

Grace and compassion for self fill my heart.


May we all be free of the chains that bind us to the lies that we are flawed and unenlightened. May we all be free to see us as the Creator sees us: each perfect in our own right.


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Published by Tiffany

Writing out my thoughts has helped me to gain a new perspective of myself. In sharing these writings, it is my hope to help others to better understand themselves. It is my belief that with each of us who chooses this path of greater understanding of thy self, that it inspires others to do the same. This building momentum is the force that drives me to share, for in my vulnerability, I find my strength. I believe that you can also find yours there. ~~~In reading some of my posts, you will see that growth is not always pretty. It is in breaking apart and coming undone that a seed sprouts and breaks free of its own captivity. It is also out of mud that the lotus blossoms. ~~~Please join me in seeing the beauty of growth within the deconstruction of our limiting beliefs. ~~T.C.

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