Relationships are our Teachers

Relationships reflect to us who we are on the inside. They show us so many things about our inner beliefs that we may or may not want to see.

When a relationship ends, we often experience grief as a natural matter of course. While on one hand, we could allow ourselves to focus on the ending, we can also choose to see this as a great opportunity for learning.

After a relationship ends, we can discover our weaknesses, as well as our strengths. We can discover our wounds as well as where we have healed. We can discover where we are willing to compromise as well as where we will no longer. In essence, we can discover many aspects of ourselves.

Then we can take these lessons forward into our current and future relationships.

May we all find peace, even where we had been previously hurt, so that we may learn from our past and not be condemned to repeat it in the future.

After composing most of this piece, a friend posted this related article about complaining, that you might find interesting.

The poem that inspired today’s blog:

“After A While”

After a while you learn

the subtle difference between

holding a hand and chaining a soul

and you learn

that love doesn’t mean leaning

and company doesn’t always mean security.

And you begin to learn

that kisses aren’t contracts

and presents aren’t promises

and you begin to accept your defeats

with your head up and your eyes ahead

with the grace of woman,

not the grief of a child

and you learn

to build all your roads on today

because tomorrow’s ground is

too uncertain for plans

and futures have a way of falling down

in mid-flight.

After a while you learn

that even sunshine burns

if you get too much

so you plant your own garden

and decorate your own soul

instead of waiting for someone

to bring you flowers.

And you learn that you really can endure

you really are strong

you really do have worth

and you learn

and you learn

with every goodbye, you learn…

~ 1971, Veronica A. Shoffstall.

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Published by Tiffany

Writing out my thoughts has helped me to gain a new perspective of myself. In sharing these writings, it is my hope to help others to better understand themselves. It is my belief that with each of us who chooses this path of greater understanding of thy self, that it inspires others to do the same. This building momentum is the force that drives me to share, for in my vulnerability, I find my strength. I believe that you can also find yours there. ~~~In reading some of my posts, you will see that growth is not always pretty. It is in breaking apart and coming undone that a seed sprouts and breaks free of its own captivity. It is also out of mud that the lotus blossoms. ~~~Please join me in seeing the beauty of growth within the deconstruction of our limiting beliefs. ~~T.C. View more posts