Fear of Being Too Much

The small Alice of the looking glass has permeated so much of my life. My fear of vanity, of fully seeing and appreciating the help I give to others and the beauty that emanates from my being are all minimized. This prevents me from realizing my dreams, sometimes even from dreaming them. For instance, I’m afraid to date a man more attractive than me. “What do I have to offer him?” is my constant refrain (pun intended).

I discovered this week in Mirror Work Day #1 that I fear wearing beautfiul clothes on the regular because I don’t feel I deserve to look nice. For so long I thought I dressed down to avoid male attention; it is only recently that I don’t cringe when I feel being seen sexually by “others” that I’m not involved with in that way.

Over the past month, I’ve walked through many a fire without shedding more than a tear or two. Recognizing that this fear of being too much brings forth a wellspring of free flowing tears. So here I sit openly crying for the little girl inside that I have so long suppressed. I see now the pain she has carried separately from me for so long, being forced into cramped spaces by my hand! I shower her with love and gratitude for carrying so much for so long. Allowing her to reintegrate into my body and being.

Alice, it’s time to grow big now. Eat your smaller self, grow up into the woman, the Goddess you were put on this Earth to serve others with. Fear not your size, the white rabbit nor the holes you must go down to follow him into the Underland. It is only in the shadows that you can find your light, your true strength; your brilliance.

Just when the caterpillar in its chrysalis thought the world had come to an end, it became a butterfly…

To the reader: what fears hold you back?

May we all do something today that spreads our wings, pushing the envelope just a little bit more.

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Published by Tiffany

Writing out my thoughts has helped me to gain a new perspective of myself. In sharing these writings, it is my hope to help others to better understand themselves. It is my belief that with each of us who chooses this path of greater understanding of thy self, that it inspires others to do the same. This building momentum is the force that drives me to share, for in my vulnerability, I find my strength. I believe that you can also find yours there. ~~~In reading some of my posts, you will see that growth is not always pretty. It is in breaking apart and coming undone that a seed sprouts and breaks free of its own captivity. It is also out of mud that the lotus blossoms. ~~~Please join me in seeing the beauty of growth within the deconstruction of our limiting beliefs. ~~T.C.

25 thoughts on “Fear of Being Too Much

  1. “I’m afraid to date a man more attractive than me. “What do I have to offer him?” is my constant refrain (pun intended).” – Ditto sister.

    In fact, I’ve always settled for whoever paid me any attention. I was simply lucky someone seemed to want me, rather than going after what I wanted. Its a lack of self worth, lack of self love, and fear of rejection. Its not only applicable to this area either. Its true about all risks in life I never took.

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    1. Yes! When I was mentally preparing for the “divorce conversation,” I heard “Better Man” by Pearl Jam daily. “Landslide,” too…covered or not.
      And yes, those insecurities apply in all aspects of life…like why it’s hard for me to wear cute clothes!

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      1. It got painful for a bit, I’m somewhat neutral again. Black is the best for me…the lyrics about the woman in the bed, all 5 horizons. I get hot every damn time!
        Then I really love immortality. Yummy Eddie!

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    1. it’s interesting, because i’ve learn to fake being confident… my dad taught me to walk tall. some people think i’m taller than i am. friends tell me when i reveal my vulnerabilities that they had no clue i felt like they do… and so, yes, now i’m working on the feeling beautiful part. it still triggers me. ha! more work to be done.
      i really appreciate your support and insights!

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  2. Love this. I think fears hold many of us back. While I don’t fear much externally, other than heights and snakes, at times I fear not being accepted for who I am. So, I can relate.

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