Standing Down

For most (ahem, all) of my life I have guarded my tender heart.
So many it seems have torn it apart.


Friends of yesteryear saw only small facets,

only what I chose & when I chose to share it. 

The small pieces of me thrown out like bait,

to allow them to know that I could truly appreciate

what they were going through.


In the end, I only hurt myself.

By holding back so much of me,

I was never really truly free.

Feed me bourbon or beer, 

to let me feel more clear to be me….really?


Now, I work to be my most brightest authenic self.

Sober, awake, not using food to soothe the pain.

And yet after years of work and toil, 

It’s not that fucking easy. 

I still find myself holding back.


Yet, I’m tired of truths half-baked.

Making it in a way that is fake.

I’ve grown weary of attracting people to me based on falsities and phobias.

For me to reap the most from my relationships, 

it is I who must be more willing to be vulnerable,

to lay down my sword;

to stand down my guard,

to remove my body armor.

To let lose control of my voice

and to speak my truth more openly, more authentically.


So here I stand, doing my best to be more transparent.

So here I stand, doing my best to show my worst and my scariest.

Here I stand, naked.

And there is still more to bear.

This is not to gain your approval.

But to gain my own.

To love me more for me,

allows me to love you more for you.


Wounds and all. 

No longer trying to avoid the fall.

May I learn to love now from the heart,

letting go of my habit of loving from an arm’s distance.

Standing down in the face of resistance.

Submitting, surrendering, letting go of control.

Please be gentle with me, take it slow.

I’m still figuring out just how this goes.



__/|\__ Metta


Published by Tiffany

Writing out my thoughts has helped me to gain a new perspective of myself. In sharing these writings, it is my hope to help others to better understand themselves. It is my belief that with each of us who chooses this path of greater understanding of thy self, that it inspires others to do the same. This building momentum is the force that drives me to share, for in my vulnerability, I find my strength. I believe that you can also find yours there. ~~~In reading some of my posts, you will see that growth is not always pretty. It is in breaking apart and coming undone that a seed sprouts and breaks free of its own captivity. It is also out of mud that the lotus blossoms. ~~~Please join me in seeing the beauty of growth within the deconstruction of our limiting beliefs. ~~T.C.

24 thoughts on “Standing Down

  1. Bravo! A really powerful piece. I can feel every ounce of your true being trying to jump out of the page. Moved my interior in a great way. Keep letting yourself be displayed fully. You have a beautiful elegance to offer and help all who are connected by your gravity.

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      1. you’re killing me, smalls with all of the compliments.
        I appreciate your support and I’m doing my best to receive it all…something with which I have struggled my entire life and yes, the struggle is real! =)


    1. Amy, I do want to inspire others. As a healer and an INFP, it is my nature to desire to make whatever I touch a better improved thing. Through my words, through my physical touch, through my heart, I work to make this world a better place. Much love! Tiffany


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