we each Love to the

best of our abilities.

so often we ache for

the unconditional Love

of others: parents, siblings,

friends, teachers and lovers.

we hate & reject the parts of

ourselves others seemingly

rejected. Their lack of Love

reflected onto us a shadow.

where they blocked their own light,

where they could not Love themselves.

we then believed their shadow

was our own: unlovable.

as we were unable to see the truth,

they Loved us the best they

could Love themselves.

and so it goes,

we can truly Love others

only as much

as we can truly

Love ourselves;

to the best of

our abilities.


Published by Tiffany

Writing out my thoughts has helped me to gain a new perspective of myself. In sharing these writings, it is my hope to help others to better understand themselves. It is my belief that with each of us who chooses this path of greater understanding of thy self, that it inspires others to do the same. This building momentum is the force that drives me to share, for in my vulnerability, I find my strength. I believe that you can also find yours there. ~~~In reading some of my posts, you will see that growth is not always pretty. It is in breaking apart and coming undone that a seed sprouts and breaks free of its own captivity. It is also out of mud that the lotus blossoms. ~~~Please join me in seeing the beauty of growth within the deconstruction of our limiting beliefs. ~~T.C.

14 thoughts on “Love

  1. Yes, very very true. Even more so when you know that you were the cause of them blocking their light. I have had to face some painful truths. A relationship can sometimes be a vicous circle of dispair and depression. I have concluded that the only way to health and happiness for us is for me to put God first in my life and marriage and allow His love to flow thru me (the cup) to heal in her what I have broken. I can see a long road ahead. Gosh i get long winded, sorry 😊
    Anyway I told her last nite, I’m committed to the end, regardless of how much she is Sigh, unconditional love is hard but
    I will find my strength in Him. We have strarted praying together and it has helped us to open up more to each other, honestly and yet more painfully. I’m learning to swim thru it and transform.
    Your wtiting has been so on point. It’s a journey I think we all take in some way. Your openess has so inspired me so very much . Thank You!!! I’m praying you find your Warrior sooner than later! Much Love to you ❤❤❤ K en

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    1. Oh, Ken, please forgive yourself for your trespasses. You did the best you could with what you had at the time. I believe you would have done better if you could have! You have also inspired me in your sharing and thank you for the prayers! ❤️ Tiffany


  2. Tiffany, you’re right, it’s my fathers’ legacy but I know better. Talk about a timely revelation, I was on Lonerwolfs’ site earlier and took the psychological archetype test. 90% Sage, 85% Lover and Caregiver. Nailed me especially after reading the shadows. I remember you reffered to me as an old soul once. I think there’s something to that. How’s this for a blog title “Lamentations of an Old Soul”? This boy has some learnin to do. You have a Beautiful evening Beautiful Lady! :D, Ken


    1. Ken,
      Would you send me a link to the test?
      Re healing, judgement is a great way to block healing. It seems to close the heart and ability to love down. Agape Love judges not, perhaps this is why…. As soon as we have judged, we are stepping out of unconditional love as judgement is a conditional situation.
      Not sure why I took this tangent, something you said made me feel you were judging yourself harshly, I suppose.
      Thank you for the well wishes & much love to you, as well!


  3. So, Let’s see if I can cut and paste on this tablet? Here it is: 😎 I bunch of different tests. Now don’t leave the page once you get your results or their gonna taka hike, print them. I have to take it all over again. I remember Joker, Magician and orphan coming in at 75%. My gosh, I just scrolled to the bottom, I’ll be a week taking all these. He must have several dozen more tests. Let me know how it goes, I’d like to compare notes offline. I’m at
    I’ve been writing a liitle poetry , It’ s dark but sure feels good letting it go. It doesn’t own me anymore.☺😊
    ❤❤❤ Sweet dreams, beautiful one!


  4. I had a huge turning point with this very topic around the time my dad died in December. During his hospitalization I talked a lot with my mom and she showed a vulnerable side I hadn’t seen before. Through the course of those conversations I realized that she did the best that she could with us kids. So did Dad. They loved us. They did so in the best way they could. And we kids could do nothing but show spite for them. Everything changed in that realization. I loved my mother more than ever. I loved my dad more than ever. Even though there were years of pain I like the man I am today and I couldn’t be this man without them being the parents they were. Thank you for writing this.

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