When my soul passes from this world, it is my hope that those left behind celebrate my life more than grieve the loss of it. As such, I am now choosing to celebrate more than grieve.
It is easy for me to focus on what I have “lost” this past year. Two days ago, many suppressed emotions hit me like a freight train after I was stood up. I was blind-sided by well-hidden and suppressed anger towards men, guilt for breaking up the family, and deeply-seated fears of abandonment and rejection.
By sitting through these emotions, allowing them to just express themselves without getting attached to them with statements like, “No, I don’t hate men,” or “yes, I’m a bad mother,” I was able to allow the beliefs to become neutral and no longer charged. It was hard as hell, yet worth the effort to become free of the charges.
I had been holding onto grief as if it were my job! I realize I had subconsciously packed up emotions and physical possessions. Now I am sorting through it all with an open heart and mind. Today I see that if I want to stop grieving, then I need to start celebrating!
Today I choose to celebrate:
- being a mom that is freed from many of her own fears.
- the relationships with men who are present and supportive warriors.
- having a lighter home with fewer things to pack, move and unpack.
- the light, will and strength within.
- the freedom within to choose new ways of being.
- that what is meant for me will never miss me.
May we all find the freedom to celebrate more than grieve today and every day. I hope you will join me in your own way! Feel free to share the things that you choose to start celebrating today.
Happy Mother’s Day!
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Good for you! Enjoy the lightness after the purge. Inspiring post. 🙂
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Thank you, Lola! Yes, I often dread the purging (on any level) and then once it’s on, it’s on! Glad to hear you found inspiration here. ☀️
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Absofuckinglutely BRILLIANT! Let’s celebrate together my sweet, free, beautiful little sister:
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Rita, I just love your response! I need to get on laptop to view link. Mobile isn’t cooperating. Can’t wait! Thank you, big sis! ❤️🔥🔥
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Song for us to dance to!
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Yes, I thought it was! Just not able to pull it up for some reason. (tell me the song & I’ll dance to it!)
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Celebrate by Kool & The Gang
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Love it and on it!
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Yeah baby!
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I’m happy you choose to celebrate, Tiffany. I know it’s hard to let go of past hurts and their power over you, but I think you know you’ll be a far happier person if you can do so. Happy Mother’s Day to you. 💜
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Thank you, Cathy! Yes, it can be so easy to focus on the scars and what is missing vs what is there and beautiful (tho scars do add character, too).
Thank you for your support! I miss your stories and hope to read them once again soon (hopefully before re book is released).
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I posted an old story a few days ago, don’t know if you caught it. From time to time, I’ll post a story on WordPress, maybe on down the road do another serial…haven’t decided yet. The book may be a long time coming about–I should be ready in about a month to start querying literary agents, and have no plans to self-publish, so we shall see.
Have a great day, Tiffany. 😀
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Cathy, I’ve been off of WP quite a bit so I saw the preview and have not read beyond that. I’m sorry! After I move & get settled in, I’ll be able to read more. I love your writing, it’s just a matter of time. =)
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I’m so far behind I’ll never catch up. I completely understand. 😊❤️
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Thank you! I so enjoy your stories and timing is important! The intensity if emotions I experience requires a certain respect for timing. ❤️
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😊❤️
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Thank you for this. Bless you
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You are welcome! Thank you for the comment and follow! Bless you, as well!
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Starting with your possessions is always a great way to start processing past events and also moving on. The energies are shifted and new changes can occur easier. Good luck on your way to lightness!
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Funny, this time it started with being stood up, then packing. Lots of releasing going on this weekend! Thank you for reading and supporting, Vilina! I appreciate the additional light.
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Hey Warrior Woman, let’s go celebrate tonite, got something for you that will put a smile on your face and pink on your shoulders. One ringy dingy, two ringy dingy’s……
😆😧❤
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Sir, Yes, Sir! See you soon!
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What a beautiful and heartfelt post Tiffany. I actually felt the lightness and I’m so happy that you’re choosing to celebrate rather than grieve. It’s not easy is it but so worth the effort. Take care my friend and I hope you continue to look for and find the joy and refocus on what’s here right now. xo
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Yes, I’m doing my best! Being present means feeling the “other” things too. Recognizing how much anger I’ve stuffed inside for so long. whew!
Another piece of myself to just learn to sit through. ❤️ to you!
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So true. We feel it all don’t we, the bad and the good. One day, one moment at a time. Hugs xo
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Thank you, Miriam!
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The stages of grieving are so intense! Hoping you may find your happiness soon!
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Thank you! Hoping you have found yours!
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Every day I seek it. Some days are easier than others with a terminally ill daughter.
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Love to you, your daughter, your family and friends. May you each find peace during this time and may you have strength for what you are going through now and for what is to come. ❤️🙏🏽🌈
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