Celebrating more than Grieving

When my soul passes from this world, it is my hope that those left behind celebrate my life more than grieve the loss of it.  As such, I am now choosing to celebrate more than grieve.

It is easy for me to focus on what I have “lost” this past year. Two days ago, many suppressed emotions hit me like a freight train after I was stood up. I was blind-sided by well-hidden and suppressed anger towards men, guilt for breaking up the family, and deeply-seated fears of abandonment and rejection.

By sitting through these emotions, allowing them to just express themselves without getting attached to them with statements like, “No, I don’t hate men,” or “yes, I’m a bad mother,” I was able to allow the beliefs to become neutral and no longer charged. It was hard as hell, yet worth the effort to become free of the charges.

I had been holding onto grief as if it were my job! I realize I had subconsciously packed up emotions and physical possessions. Now I am sorting through it all with an open heart and mind. Today I see that if I want to stop grieving, then I need to start celebrating!

Today I choose to celebrate:

  • being a mom that is freed from many of her own fears.
  • the relationships with men who are present and supportive warriors.
  • having a lighter home with fewer things to pack, move and unpack.
  • the light, will and strength within.
  • the freedom within to choose new ways of being.
  • that what is meant for me will never miss me.

May we all find the freedom to celebrate more than grieve today and every day. I hope you will join me in your own way! Feel free to share the things that you choose to start celebrating today.

Happy Mother’s Day!

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    1. Thank you, Cathy! Yes, it can be so easy to focus on the scars and what is missing vs what is there and beautiful (tho scars do add character, too).
      Thank you for your support! I miss your stories and hope to read them once again soon (hopefully before re book is released).

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      1. I posted an old story a few days ago, don’t know if you caught it. From time to time, I’ll post a story on WordPress, maybe on down the road do another serial…haven’t decided yet. The book may be a long time coming about–I should be ready in about a month to start querying literary agents, and have no plans to self-publish, so we shall see.
        Have a great day, Tiffany. 😀

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      2. Cathy, I’ve been off of WP quite a bit so I saw the preview and have not read beyond that. I’m sorry! After I move & get settled in, I’ll be able to read more. I love your writing, it’s just a matter of time. =)

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  1. Hey Warrior Woman, let’s go celebrate tonite, got something for you that will put a smile on your face and pink on your shoulders. One ringy dingy, two ringy dingy’s……
    😆😧❤

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  2. What a beautiful and heartfelt post Tiffany. I actually felt the lightness and I’m so happy that you’re choosing to celebrate rather than grieve. It’s not easy is it but so worth the effort. Take care my friend and I hope you continue to look for and find the joy and refocus on what’s here right now. xo

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    1. Yes, I’m doing my best! Being present means feeling the “other” things too. Recognizing how much anger I’ve stuffed inside for so long. whew!
      Another piece of myself to just learn to sit through. ❤️ to you!

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      1. Love to you, your daughter, your family and friends. May you each find peace during this time and may you have strength for what you are going through now and for what is to come. ❤️🙏🏽🌈

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