One of the reasons that I blog is to expand my view of the universe. Both by delving further inwardly as well as from gaining new perspectives from other bloggers. As such, I greatly appreciate hearing your perspectives even if they differ from my own. This for me is part of the process. So I encourage you to comment at will on this and other posts when you feel compelled. It helps us all to learn and grow.
While I had not planned to post again this week, I saw the post from Mr M below and juices started to flow. It is a thought provoking post that is a follow-up to Submission is not an Archetype. Whether you are part of the D/s lifestyle or not, I feel these are great posts to read as both of them help to dispel some of the common misconceptions about Doms and subs.
What I would personally add to the Dominance post is that I find (in my experience) that Doms are often intuitive and observant. Those who play Doms, based on superficial explorations of this lifestyle, seek to use and possibly even harm the partner without caring about the partner’s experience.
From my perspective, as a burgeoning submissive, submission is a gift. It is something that is gifted to the Dom as a symbol of trust and respect. Submission is not to be coerced or taken, the subject is not to be used, instead honored.
In my opinion, the D/s dynamic is to deepen the intimacy and connection between the partners to help bring about greater sexual and spiritual experiences through being present, being open, being honest while maintaining mutual respect for the other partner’s boundaries and place within the dynamic.
In my limited experience with submission, I have reached higher states of bliss and consciousness. Sexual pleasure as a submissive is more intense than I have experienced in “vanilla” partnerships. What was more interesting for me to discover is that I have also experienced greater states of spiritual bliss and calmness in subspace than I can usually achieve in meditation following years of practice.
At this point, I’m not sure if I can go back. Instead, I’m learning to discern those who are playing the role and those who are actually Dominant males. For instance my new red flag with a hard stop is now: “I’ll use you however I want.” Nope, Bro, it’s time for me to go.
While I understand D/s is not for everyone, I feel that there is far more to it than is understood or recognized in the general population. It is my hope that more people can begin to pull off their blinders and gain a new perspective on something that so many shun and thus refuse to learn more about. So without further Adieu, here is the post by Mr. M:
About a year ago, I wrote a small piece entitled “Submission is Not an Archetype“. It was quite popular for a while and generated a lot of healthy discussion. If you have not read it, I encourage you to do so. At the time, my observation was that there were too many women who felt they […]