Just Be With It

Someone once said “change is inevitable, struggle is an option.” When we allow our situations to “just be” we allow ourselves to free. when we struggle, we just create more trouble.

Dear Tiffany,

when life sends you the need to move, to find a new place and you struggle against it and don’t pack until the very last minute, you find yourself in a very stressful situation. when you can just be with the feelings as they come up, they quickly wash away.

when life sends you two women in the same day who were sexually traumatized, reminding you of your own wounds, just be with it. just be present with the women, too. allow them to express and then explain to them how their past makes present sexual relationships challenging. just be with the feelings inside that rise to the surface.

when the anger that you have repressed spills over into your daughter and she reflects it back to you, appreciate her mirror. love her as you wanted to be loved when you were angry. she is working through what you didn’t and she needs your support. love her and remember to love yourself, too, for she is a reflection of you.

when life sends you a paranoid schizophrenic that you get to sit in a room with alone for an hour and interview, while all of your childhood fears and memories from being beaten by your adult schizophrenic cousin flood back it ~ just be with it and just be with him. after all, your jeep was safely untouched when you left the keys in the ignition for 8 hours and the doors off….

when life sends you a friend that would seem a great fit as a partner, and you know it’s just not mean not be – just be with it. enjoy what you learn about yourself in the interim. enjoy the presence of someone who can appreciate you more fully than anyone else ever has. just be with it, the feelings of unworthiness and the illusion of rejection. just be with the feelings of passion that are shared and appreciated between the two of you. just be with the new elements of yourself that are beginning to shine. just freaking allow it!

remember, when you struggle, dear Tiffany, you only bring yourself more trouble.

image: google

Published by Tiffany

Writing out my thoughts has helped me to gain a new perspective of myself. In sharing these writings, it is my hope to help others to better understand themselves. It is my belief that with each of us who chooses this path of greater understanding of thy self, that it inspires others to do the same. This building momentum is the force that drives me to share, for in my vulnerability, I find my strength. I believe that you can also find yours there. ~~~In reading some of my posts, you will see that growth is not always pretty. It is in breaking apart and coming undone that a seed sprouts and breaks free of its own captivity. It is also out of mud that the lotus blossoms. ~~~Please join me in seeing the beauty of growth within the deconstruction of our limiting beliefs. ~~T.C.

21 thoughts on “Just Be With It

  1. A wise letter to yourself Tiffany, heartfelt and raw. Sometimes it feels like struggling is all we’re capable of but as hard as it is, letting go and just being is often our best release. Hugs to you. xox

    Liked by 1 person

Leave a Reply

Please log in using one of these methods to post your comment:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s

Healing Your Heart From Within

Decided to dance a little deeper in life, and wow can spirit dance!


True tales over 50

Phoenix Inspiring

Believe it's Possible!


Wandering Towards Faith Am I

other mind press

...poetry and other musings




Our small family living in a 5th wheel following Dads work as a rock fall technician... what could go wrong?

Damon Ashworth Psychology

Clinical Psychologist

Set Sail

Lets share a journey

The Dolly Mama

FROM MY HEART TO YOURS...hope and healing (with a little humor along the way)

How I Lost My Chains

I've Learned The Most Unlearning Everything I've Ever Known

Ignite with Thato

Unleash your Greatness

Write your Destiny

The Reader's World


Reflections on transcending my diagnosis of a mental illness...

Healing Your Heart From Within

Decided to dance a little deeper in life, and wow can spirit dance!

Path of Self Love School

understanding ourselves to be free

%d bloggers like this: