Someone once said “change is inevitable, struggle is an option.” When we allow our situations to “just be” we allow ourselves to free. when we struggle, we just create more trouble.
Dear Tiffany,
when life sends you the need to move, to find a new place and you struggle against it and don’t pack until the very last minute, you find yourself in a very stressful situation. when you can just be with the feelings as they come up, they quickly wash away.
when life sends you two women in the same day who were sexually traumatized, reminding you of your own wounds, just be with it. just be present with the women, too. allow them to express and then explain to them how their past makes present sexual relationships challenging. just be with the feelings inside that rise to the surface.
when the anger that you have repressed spills over into your daughter and she reflects it back to you, appreciate her mirror. love her as you wanted to be loved when you were angry. she is working through what you didn’t and she needs your support. love her and remember to love yourself, too, for she is a reflection of you.
when life sends you a paranoid schizophrenic that you get to sit in a room with alone for an hour and interview, while all of your childhood fears and memories from being beaten by your adult schizophrenic cousin flood back it ~ just be with it and just be with him. after all, your jeep was safely untouched when you left the keys in the ignition for 8 hours and the doors off….
when life sends you a friend that would seem a great fit as a partner, and you know it’s just not mean not be – just be with it. enjoy what you learn about yourself in the interim. enjoy the presence of someone who can appreciate you more fully than anyone else ever has. just be with it, the feelings of unworthiness and the illusion of rejection. just be with the feelings of passion that are shared and appreciated between the two of you. just be with the new elements of yourself that are beginning to shine. just freaking allow it!
remember, when you struggle, dear Tiffany, you only bring yourself more trouble.
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unfiltered from the heart 
A wise letter to yourself Tiffany, heartfelt and raw. Sometimes it feels like struggling is all we’re capable of but as hard as it is, letting go and just being is often our best release. Hugs to you. xox
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Thank you, Miriam! Minus the move, this has been my week. I needed to find something to help me with it. Allowing is making for a smoother ride.
Hugs to you, too, my friend! ❤️
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Good for you, I’m glad the ride has been somewhat smoother. xo
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Perspective 😉
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Absolutely.
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I love how you’re able to process your feelings through thoughts with words. Very nice.
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Thank you! Glad you liked it. It’s been an interesting ride.
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🙂 I know not all rides are fun, but they all teach us something or give us a skill for our later rides down the road.
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Yes, and I’m learning they can also help others!
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Wow Tiffany, so much wisdom here! Hope the rest of the week is smoother, all Sunshine and Butterflies ❤ Ken
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Thank you!
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Just be.
Love your wisdom
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Thank you, Tosha! I also love yours.
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You’re welcome 😍
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❤️😘
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This is a wonderful and wise letter to yourself. I love how you write it to yourself, so much self-care and acknowledgment in doing that. Thanks for sharing this. 🙂 Alexis
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Thank you, Alexis! I appreciate it very much, self-live has been a real struggle at times.
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This is a perfect reminder! One for the rest of us too, thank you!
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Thank you, Kay!
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Well said.
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Thank you! Hope you are well!
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