Holding the Bars

For so long holding the bars 
To his cage, avoiding the feelings
That keep him sequestered
His knuckles white with a death grip
He stares out beyond the edge
Watching as others soar
If he could but turn around and see
The only part of the cage that exists
Is the part that he’s holding…

Published by Tiffany

Writing out my thoughts has helped me to gain a new perspective of myself. In sharing these writings, it is my hope to help others to better understand themselves. It is my belief that with each of us who chooses this path of greater understanding of thy self, that it inspires others to do the same. This building momentum is the force that drives me to share, for in my vulnerability, I find my strength. I believe that you can also find yours there. ~~~In reading some of my posts, you will see that growth is not always pretty. It is in breaking apart and coming undone that a seed sprouts and breaks free of its own captivity. It is also out of mud that the lotus blossoms. ~~~Please join me in seeing the beauty of growth within the deconstruction of our limiting beliefs. ~~T.C.

14 thoughts on “Holding the Bars

  1. OMG, what can I say, Don’ t know who you were thinking of when you wrote this piece but it fits and it hurts to face it, but it ‘s a starting place for this new journey I’m on. Thank you for being you and the catalyst I so desperately needed! ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️ Barn

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    1. Thank you, Barney! Yes, I wrote with one man in mind and then last night saw that it applies to every man I know now on an emotional level. So where am I also holding myself back, given that all of you are my mirror?


      1. Ya know, I think it’s part of the human condition, when we buy into the lies of the enemy and slowly imprison ourselves. For me, unlearning the lies is taking time, slowly replacing it with Truth from my Creator. Head knowledge is one thing , believing in your heart is quite another…. And then there is learning to trust, it all fits together…

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    1. Thank you, Michael! Interesting that while the caged lion was my muse, I now see this also applies to every man I know on an emotional level at this time… And since others are my mirror, I now get to see where I am doing the same to me 😉
      Happy Birthday, Leo! 😘

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      1. You often speak of mirrors…I think you have explained it a bit to me before. Thinking about it literally, it seems that a mirror only reflects what is before it. If we lead with a mask or shadow-driven persona…that is what the mirror shows us. Only we know what is within us. I’m sure there is more context around this concept that I’m not well versed in 🙂 Thank you sweet, sensual Tiffany <3:-*

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      2. Michael, you have a good point. The mirror I am referring to here is spiritual.
        In my understanding of The Universe, all beings are connected. I envision a large tapestry that weaves together similar threads, yet that has varying images. As such, each being reflects from within itself characteristics that can be seen in others. That reflection is what I refer to as a mirror. So the sacred mirror reflects to us all that is seen (Persona) and unseen (Shadow). The post I recently did about self-punishment was penned after I had a friend share how he was shaming himself for his sexual needs. It was such a strong example of self-punishment that I then began to see where just about every person I spoke with the next day was sharing their self-punishment habits. It was then “my job” to look within my shadow and see where I was punishing myself. So, basically, when I see a pattern emerge, it gives me pause to seek where I am doing the same to myself. Based on this and my current pattern with being attracted to and or involved with men who are (in various ways) unavailable to me, where am I being unavailable to myself and to others? So the mirror is not a physical one. I believe I’ve seen Jung quotes regarding such and I will see if I can find one. Thank you, Michael, for being you! It helps me to be me 😘

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      3. Michael, once again you have tipped me in the direction I needed to go. I was debating my next post and you have been my compass (unknowingly, perhaps). While I do not see a clear & concise statement to where Jung states that others are our mirrors, it is inferred w/ the following article (it is long, some parts I did skim). I have done the technique where in low light I stared at another person’s face, I also saw some interesting things…as described in the article. Thank You, again Michael for being you! =-*

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      4. Wow, this is one heck of a link you provided. I think my head is about to explode!😝 I will have to take this in over a couple reads. I did pick up distinctions in looking into actual mirrors vs. other people…believe it was near the image where two chairs are facing and he explores the different reaction and projections of introverts/extroverts when staring into someone else. Then, the whole archetype exploration was fascinating too. Great reference…thanks for sharing your research 😘

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