Shifting Paradigms

To help to improve ourselves, sometimes we ask, “What did I do wrong? Or what could I do better?”

Recently, in contemplating a particular pattern I’m finding in my relations with men, I started to ask myself these questions. Before I went too far down the “WTF” path I was on, a light bulb went off. Suddenly it occurred to me that the real question I need to be asking is “What am I doing right?”


This naturally lead to answering for myself the following questions: How am I now setting healthier boundaries? How am I now connecting with men in a way that is trusting and open vs doubtful and closed? How am I now expressing myself and my needs more openly and receiving respect in return? And how about how I am mentally exploring my sexuality vs physically

So I ask you, dearest reader, to now reflect: how are you doing right by yourself  today? This is especially poignant if there has been a change.


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17 thoughts on “Shifting Paradigms

  1. Hhmmmm, have to think on this one. I really like the direction you are going with these recent posts. Especially positive and encouraging! Hugs sweet soul sister, ❀️ Barn

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  2. An excellent post! You’re right in everything you said. I always ask myself “What did I do wrong?” Always finding myself wanting in some way and then struggling to get my head back above water. I don’t know how to change that except to be more positive and loving toward myself. I treat people better than I do myself so often. But thank you for sharing these empowering thoughts. I needed to read this today because I’m in a self-hating mood right now. Best regards to you sweetheart, Caraβ™₯

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  3. Finally home from work with time to think on it. I finding that my issue is in changing the way I think about myself, it has been so negative for so many years. I’ve decided I need to search the scriptures to see how my Creator looks at me and meditate on that instead of the lies and negativity!😊 Barn

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