Overcoming Procrastination: Lose Yourself

The more we push off doing something for “later,” the more we build up a wall that then needs to be broken down. Pressure builds with each moment that we avoid doing something that we know will help us in some way. As such procrastination is also a passive-aggressive way to block love from ourselves.

Sometimes a perspective shift such as in “Motivation Through Punishment?” can be helpful. I find that “should” and “ought”statements build shame and guilt. So when I say to myself things such as “I really should/ought/need to do (this task),” that I often don’t want to even think about it.

What I have found that works better for me is to say, “It will help me to do (this task). I will feel better once I get started.” So often we wait and hold off doing something because we feel we need: more time, more energy, more motivation. Just as we need to push a button or turn the key in our car’s ignition, to “get motivated” we need to start with action. If we waited for the car to start itself, we’d never get anywhere in life.

Another aspect that can cause procrastination involves the belief that what we do needs to be perfect. Even just one tiny step towards starting a project can help break down barriers, allow room for mistakes. It’s better to start a walking program that lasts ten minutes than to couch surf and expect a change.

Sometimes we also tell ourselves, or make ourselves believe, that we must do the entire project at once. Commit to a small time frame instead. “I’ll do 20 minutes a day today and get this thing started,” can take off some of the pressure. After 20 minutes, you can then choose to continue, or you can set a time frame for another day or time, then stick to it!

The longer we wait, the more walls build and then we need to break down. Loving yourself is not just about breaking down walls, it’s also about not allowing yourself to continue to build barriers. So today, and everyday, let’s “lose ourselves” in the moment, you own it, you better never let it go. While I do believe we have more than one chance to get it right (even Eminem in this very song talks about trying again, and again), we only fail ourselves when we fail to try.

So what step can you take today to start a project? Write it down. Make it simple. Then do it! And remember to celebrate climbing the mountain you’ve created. You’ll love yourself more for it.



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Published by Tiffany

Writing out my thoughts has helped me to gain a new perspective of myself. In sharing these writings, it is my hope to help others to better understand themselves. It is my belief that with each of us who chooses this path of greater understanding of thy self, that it inspires others to do the same. This building momentum is the force that drives me to share, for in my vulnerability, I find my strength. I believe that you can also find yours there. ~~~In reading some of my posts, you will see that growth is not always pretty. It is in breaking apart and coming undone that a seed sprouts and breaks free of its own captivity. It is also out of mud that the lotus blossoms. ~~~Please join me in seeing the beauty of growth within the deconstruction of our limiting beliefs. ~~T.C.

27 thoughts on “Overcoming Procrastination: Lose Yourself

  1. You’re right in everything you said. I’m doing the procrastination dance right now but I’m also trying to get myself motivated. Sometimes I feel crazy inside and don’t know how to stop it. But thank you for sharing this Tiffany – I am going to think on your words, my friend.

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    1. Cara, friction can slow us down yet also like a match it can help to spark us…the challenge can be to take the first step to start the process. Here’s another thought: we often beat ourselves down for not starting, yet I find for me the beat down just keeps me down. What would you tell your best friend in the same situation? Now be your best friend. What do you now say to yourself?
      Thank you for the Reblog! I appreciate it.
      ❤️ Tiffany

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  2. Breaking it up, only thing that works for me. The perfectionism thing resonates a lot. It fits perfectly with my Dad’s voice in my head, “Can’t you do anything right?” I wish I could turn it off but there isn’t a switch, I have learned to ignore it and over time it has gotten quieter, However, on occasion, it gets really loud! Excellent post Tiff! So when is the book coming out? 😆 Barn

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  3. Beautifully said Tiffany and reminders I needed this morning as I take one step at a time to get motivated. Sometimes I look too far ahead and feel overwhelmed … need to slow it all down.

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  4. Sometimes you read something and it is incredible how it resonates. This post did this for me. I knew I was procrastinating about doing something that, perhaps will have positive results but also might just prove to be the final nail in a coffin. I like how you reframed it. Thank you.

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    1. I’ve started to give myself permission to mess things up (drawings, mainly). It’s so freeing! At work I have to walk a very fine line so to be able to make mistakes is what I need. Besides Bob Ross had it right when he created happy trees from his “accidents.” That man was on to something 🙂


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