Where do you settle?

Where in life do you settle for less than you are worth?

Here are some areas in life where we often settle:

  • Work: compensation, schedule, benefits, job duties, projects 
  • Continuing education: do you take the less expensive or closer to home courses instead of traveling and following your passions?
  • Romantic relationships: taking the safe or available relationship versus  waiting for someone better
  • Friendships: do your friends know you and accept you for who you are? do you find yourself meeting everyone else’s needs and not your own? 
  • Purchases: do you only select items that are on sale vs (at least sometimes) paying full price? Do you get what you really want or just what “will do”? 
  • Self-care: do you really take the time to refuel your soul or do you treat your energy like an ATM for everyone else’s needs? Do you fully invest in your own self-care or do you half-ass it? 
  • Dreams: do you avoid living your dreams, settling for comfort and safety in daily routines?

Hopefully this list will help you become aware of where you settle for “less than” in life. For you cannot reach your dreams if your hands are filled with other things. What can you do now to step forward into the life you’ve always wanted? Sometimes baby steps are best received when it comes to change. What can you begin to change, today even if in small ways? After all, Rome wasn’t built in one day! 


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Published by Tiffany

Writing out my thoughts has helped me to gain a new perspective of myself. In sharing these writings, it is my hope to help others to better understand themselves. It is my belief that with each of us who chooses this path of greater understanding of thy self, that it inspires others to do the same. This building momentum is the force that drives me to share, for in my vulnerability, I find my strength. I believe that you can also find yours there. ~~~In reading some of my posts, you will see that growth is not always pretty. It is in breaking apart and coming undone that a seed sprouts and breaks free of its own captivity. It is also out of mud that the lotus blossoms. ~~~Please join me in seeing the beauty of growth within the deconstruction of our limiting beliefs. ~~T.C.

14 thoughts on “Where do you settle?

  1. Very insightful post. Sometimes you don’t realize how much you settle for until you see all the options compiled into a list like this. The first three and the self-care are the main ones that resonated with me. For work, I just got a new job that I’ll be starting in a few weeks so I am making moves forward but I may have settled for some of the offer. I’ll just do the best job I can do and depending on the situation, ask for a raise in a year or so. Education wise, I did take the closer to home route for my parents’ sake because I didn’t want it to be too expensive for them and I don’t totally regret that since I’m almost out of my student loan debt in less than ten years but I do feel like I sacrificed the normal college experience for that decision. As far as Romantic relationships, my issue is I barely have experience in that area so I think I need to go out there a little bit more just to get that type of energy flowing in my life so I’ve been working on getting out of my own confines and breaking some fears with that. And lastly, self-care, I’m improving in this area but I think I could eat more healthier meals.

    Well that’s it! lol

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    1. Tunisia, how very introspective! Yes, I would focus on the areas that can be changed. Regret over the past only makes us more likely to repeat the same in the future. I find baby steps are the best way to make major life changes that are lasting. And as with anything, at times there may be growing pains 😉
      Sounds like you’re making your way to some new horizons. Good luck at the new job, improved self-care and with the romantic possibilities!

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  2. Tiffany, another awesome, penetrating,thought provoking post. Funny what you listed as number one, I really didn’t need to read any further but I did! Don’t know why I am so slow to move in an area that definitely needs a change. yup, I really needed to read this! Funny I was just reading a new post from Rita “get your ass up” Yes Ma’am, er Yes Ladies! Roger, Wilco! Message received! Thanks… 😜 Barney

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  3. It seems to be a bit of a dance to keep the scale balanced. In our dreams, we would have everything we want and the scale would be tipped and pinging on full. Yet, life does require that we struggle with others and within ourselves for scarce resources. We may feel like we are underpaid, but there might be a long line of people eager to do our job…even for less. We save on classes closer to home to have money for things you need or want rather than settling for what is on sale. You sacrificed to get your PhD. In our dreams you could pursue that without giving up anything else. I get your larger point though. At times we do settle and shouldn’t. There are things we can do better if we go after our dreams and ensure that limitations aren’t self imposed. Thought provoking post as always 🙂

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    1. Yes, this is more about where we settle and we don’t need to. This isn’t to imply that at times we don’t compromise. Sometimes tho we seem to compromise our own integrity when we settle and this was the gist here…helping us to uncover those places where we follow the status quo and limit ourselves out of habit. Warmly, Tiffany

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