Where in life do you settle for less than you are worth?
Here are some areas in life where we often settle:
- Work: compensation, schedule, benefits, job duties, projects
- Continuing education: do you take the less expensive or closer to home courses instead of traveling and following your passions?
- Romantic relationships: taking the safe or available relationship versus waiting for someone better
- Friendships: do your friends know you and accept you for who you are? do you find yourself meeting everyone else’s needs and not your own?
- Purchases: do you only select items that are on sale vs (at least sometimes) paying full price? Do you get what you really want or just what “will do”?
- Self-care: do you really take the time to refuel your soul or do you treat your energy like an ATM for everyone else’s needs? Do you fully invest in your own self-care or do you half-ass it?
- Dreams: do you avoid living your dreams, settling for comfort and safety in daily routines?
Hopefully this list will help you become aware of where you settle for “less than” in life. For you cannot reach your dreams if your hands are filled with other things. What can you do now to step forward into the life you’ve always wanted? Sometimes baby steps are best received when it comes to change. What can you begin to change, today even if in small ways? After all, Rome wasn’t built in one day!
Namaste
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Very insightful post. Sometimes you don’t realize how much you settle for until you see all the options compiled into a list like this. The first three and the self-care are the main ones that resonated with me. For work, I just got a new job that I’ll be starting in a few weeks so I am making moves forward but I may have settled for some of the offer. I’ll just do the best job I can do and depending on the situation, ask for a raise in a year or so. Education wise, I did take the closer to home route for my parents’ sake because I didn’t want it to be too expensive for them and I don’t totally regret that since I’m almost out of my student loan debt in less than ten years but I do feel like I sacrificed the normal college experience for that decision. As far as Romantic relationships, my issue is I barely have experience in that area so I think I need to go out there a little bit more just to get that type of energy flowing in my life so I’ve been working on getting out of my own confines and breaking some fears with that. And lastly, self-care, I’m improving in this area but I think I could eat more healthier meals.
Well that’s it! lol
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Tunisia, how very introspective! Yes, I would focus on the areas that can be changed. Regret over the past only makes us more likely to repeat the same in the future. I find baby steps are the best way to make major life changes that are lasting. And as with anything, at times there may be growing pains 😉
Sounds like you’re making your way to some new horizons. Good luck at the new job, improved self-care and with the romantic possibilities!
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Thanks Tiffany! I really appreciate it. Wish the best for you and your adventures of not settling!
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Thank you, Tunisia! Yes, I’m seeing new things every day 🙂
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Tiffany, another awesome, penetrating,thought provoking post. Funny what you listed as number one, I really didn’t need to read any further but I did! Don’t know why I am so slow to move in an area that definitely needs a change. yup, I really needed to read this! Funny I was just reading a new post from Rita “get your ass up” Yes Ma’am, er Yes Ladies! Roger, Wilco! Message received! Thanks… 😜 Barney
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You’re welcome! Glad to help your process!
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You and rita are tag teaming me again without even knowing it. I’m guessing someone is speaking to me through you two! 😇
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Hmm! Well if at first you don’t listen then eventually He sends a two by four…or finds other creative ways to get your attention. 😘
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Yea, 😆 You mean like two Warrior Women with poetry and prose?
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Haha! It could get worse 😉
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It seems to be a bit of a dance to keep the scale balanced. In our dreams, we would have everything we want and the scale would be tipped and pinging on full. Yet, life does require that we struggle with others and within ourselves for scarce resources. We may feel like we are underpaid, but there might be a long line of people eager to do our job…even for less. We save on classes closer to home to have money for things you need or want rather than settling for what is on sale. You sacrificed to get your PhD. In our dreams you could pursue that without giving up anything else. I get your larger point though. At times we do settle and shouldn’t. There are things we can do better if we go after our dreams and ensure that limitations aren’t self imposed. Thought provoking post as always 🙂
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Yes, this is more about where we settle and we don’t need to. This isn’t to imply that at times we don’t compromise. Sometimes tho we seem to compromise our own integrity when we settle and this was the gist here…helping us to uncover those places where we follow the status quo and limit ourselves out of habit. Warmly, Tiffany
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You did a wonderful job with this and your message rings true😘
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Thank you!
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