These three words can be easier to state than to live. Yet to fully live it is time to love ourselves. Fully. Completely. Shadows, sparkles, lights and demons. All of it. No. Exceptions.
The stories we tell ourselves about ourselves hold us back. Things I’ve recently caught myself saying silently:
- Stupid girl (this one surprised me)
- You’re confused
- You’re a bad _____ (mom, student, person)
- You don’t know anything
- You’re blind
- You’re impatient
- Why can’t you get your life together?
- How stupid was that?
- When will you learn?
- What is wrong with you?
So I’ve started to tell myself different things now.
- I clearly see the solution
- My path is illuminated and easy to follow
- I am love
- With grace I move forward in peace
Just as cleaning our homes is an ongoing process, so is clearing our minds. If we don’t see the webs that threaten to choke us, then we cannot clear them and replace them with our truths.
Just as orb weavers (often) take down their webs every day, we can help ourselves to move forward by taking down the old and rebuilding anew.
What hurtful things have you been saying to you and what can you now say, instead?