Please take a moment to fill in this blank & use as many bullet points as you need. What conditions do you put on loving yourself?
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I thought I’d love myself when I:
- became a parent (I only hated myself more)
- lost 50 lbs (then it became 10 more)
- found love with a partner (then I still found myself single)
- completed another race or PR’ed (an endless pursuit of races it then becomes)
- passed my certification test (no, I then felt shame for the pride in my own accomplishment)
- reached a certain level of spirituality (then I would raise the bar again)
So now that I’m recognizing many of the “conditions of my parole” and how they’re harming me, I see it’s time to stop the conditional love. It’s now time to bless myself with the grace of my own Agape Love; the same Love, validation and approval that I have spent most of my life seeking from others.
What loving me now means is being my own friend. Eventually I’d like to be my own BFF, yet right now friend is a good place to start. No longer can I avoid withhholding loving myself for all of my “good and bad” bits. Or as Carl Jung says “sensical and non-sensical” parts.
So now I ask, what will it take for you to love you?
Namaste : the light and shadow in me honor the light and shadow in you.
This is part of the Own Your Own Shadow Series, an investigation into seeing and integrating all aspects within to recover inner peace. Only with loving ourselves can we be the change we wish to see in this world.
Yes! Love this!
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Thank you! ❤️
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So timely. I’m working on this at the moment. Thank you ❤️
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Oh, so great to hear on all levels! I definitely saw a new woman looking back at me this morning as I got ready 😉
Much love, may your journey to love be more fruitful than painful!
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That’s great to hear Tiffany. Must admit I felt a shift in my mind last night when I went to bed, for the better. May both our journeys be fruitful and fulfilling. xo
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That’s great! Yes, I scheduled this before bed and it was so much easier today 🙂
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This is really well written Tiffany. I am really struggling with not seeking external validation so much. This post has helped 😊
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Thank you! Glad you enjoyed it. Yes, I also find when I’m feeling low I look externally. Great work!
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My name would never make that list. Great concept and idea. I’ll send it to a few people I know who will love it as well. ~Cheers
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If you don’t take care of you, who will? We all need love and maintenance. It is my hope that you will begin to see why you need yourself as a friend. ❤️
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Much appreciated : ) When that happens you will be the first to know : ) xoxox
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It’s a process. I started with finding things I could do to take better care of myself. Self-compassion can be a great challenge, yet it is the elixir for our wounds. ❤️
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Email me and we’ll talk more : ) Or I’ll tell you more lol
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Gmail me at tiffanybeingfree. Know my life is kinda hectic right now 🙂
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Will do : ) XOXO
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Yes! It’s lifelong work, but so worth it. All of this completely resonated with me. Thank you.
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Thank you for your lovely comment, glad you enjoyed it! I definitely resonate with butterflies 🙂
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I think most of us on here do😊
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I really like this message. It reminds me of a short book I read by Kamal Ravikant called, “Love Yourself Like Your Life Depends on It.” The idea of unconditional self-love seemed odd at first, but I’m starting to see the wisdom in it.
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Yes! So glad you’re joining the not-so-dark darkside! Welcome!
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Great exploration, Tiffany❤️ I really identify with your feelings around reaching a milestone and expecting things to feel differently…accomplished and peaceful. I suspect a lot of that continued drive is part of your wiring towards being achievement oriented. There is nothing wrong with that. I actually consider it a very positive trait. Knowing this how you are gives you a chance to tell yourself things won’t be better at the milestone because you know you will set another goal. Hopefully, this awareness then allows you to enjoy the process and savor the journey rather seeking milestones as the end game. Glad you are becoming friends with yourself. I’m looking forward to the BFF update and then maybe even the lover’s post…that could be really hot!😄☺️From my light and shadow to yours😘
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Michael, such a supportive reply, I appreciate you saying what you have. I so often forget to celebrate. It’s something I’m working on and yet takes effort to do. Yes, I’ll give updates as they arise, hot or otherwise 😉 and loved the sign off, back at ya! I’ll watch your new video when I’m back in wifi land. Only 1 bar where I am kept messing up the streaming. Not the way your work deserves to be viewed 😘
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Thank you Tiffany😘 You do have so much to be proud of and thankful ❤️
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