Healers, You May be Missing the Point

So many of us in the healing community will bend over backwards to help others in need, even complete strangers. Yet, so often we fail to take care of ourselves. We are often overweight, arthritic and in deep emotional pain ourselves. If so, then we are missing several important points in our healing practices. 

With each healing modality I have learned from Healing Touch to Reiki to Oneness Blessings, inductees were taught to work on ourselves first. The more clear we are as channels for Universal Healing energies, the more helpful we can be to those with whom we are working.

While we may perform these “heal thyself” rituals just prior to helping another, it seems that we are failing to take the time to truly heal ourselves outside of our craft, and even fully during our sessions. This shows up in our physical and emotional bodies.

In my experience, having spent a great deal of my life overweight, extra pounds represent the feelings of shame for my needs, shame for existing, and protection from others. 

Fat is an insulator. It keeps our energies stuck inside of us and also keeps the energies of others away from us. I also feel that this extra weight seals in our anger and sadness. 

If you’re carrying extra weight, where are you unhappy? Marianne Williamson’s book A Course in Weight Loss: 21 Spiritual Lessons for Surrendering Your Weight Forever is a fantastic resource for learning how to change how we feel.

Bodily pains, in my experience, represent where the energy is dense and not moving, or moving minimally. This seems to stem from a lack of love. Our physical bodies are the physical manifestation of our mind. So one must then be willing to ask, “what is it that I fear?” Louise Hay writes about this in You Can Heal Your Life

What I’ve noticed is that the more flexible I’ve become spiritually, the more flexible my physical body has become; without me doing Yoga or other stretches. Following an evening where I came to terms with some of my suppressed anger (there was a lot), I was able the next day to touch my toes for the first time without extensive stretching. My anger was keeping my body rigid. It was keeping me stuck.

To be a more clear channel, we must keep our own conduits clean. Bodily and emotional pain are our wake up call that we’re ignoring something. 

Another important point that many of us seem to miss is that the person we are truly needing to heal is oneself. When we heal the aspect of the other person within us, then we heal both them and ourselves simultaneously. When we just focus on the other person, we are missing the point. 

As healers, our first priority is to heal ourselves throughout the healing session. This can be a challenge, as we must first be willing to see that we carry an aspect of that person within ourselves. When doing healing or prayers, if you can see the other person within you, and heal that aspect within you, you will be more than doubling your healing dollarOtherwise you and your clients are missing out on the buy-one-get-one-free deals of the century! Who wants to miss out on BOGO? A perfect example to which I’m speaking can be found in the concept of Ho’Oponopono and can be explained in Zero Limits by Joe Vitale. 

Ho’Oponopono Prayer

I love you. I am sorry. Please forgive me. Thank you.

The main concept here is that the more you can love and forgive yourself, the more you can love and forgive others. You may now go forth and heal thyselfEach and every time, without exception! 


Published by Tiffany

Writing out my thoughts has helped me to gain a new perspective of myself. In sharing these writings, it is my hope to help others to better understand themselves. It is my belief that with each of us who chooses this path of greater understanding of thy self, that it inspires others to do the same. This building momentum is the force that drives me to share, for in my vulnerability, I find my strength. I believe that you can also find yours there. ~~~In reading some of my posts, you will see that growth is not always pretty. It is in breaking apart and coming undone that a seed sprouts and breaks free of its own captivity. It is also out of mud that the lotus blossoms. ~~~Please join me in seeing the beauty of growth within the deconstruction of our limiting beliefs. ~~T.C.

22 thoughts on “Healers, You May be Missing the Point

  1. So much truth in this Tiffany, physical manifestations that come from inner turmoils. I know with me I’ve had ongoing heat in my stomach and other gut issues and I often wonder if they’re associated with my inner struggles.

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    1. Miriam, knowing what little I do, I would say there is probably a connection for you. Digestion and elimination are easily disrupted physiologically with stress, as they require input from the “peace” or parasympathetic nervous system to function properly.
      Emotional questions to ask can include, what can you not stomach? Or digest? What are you holding onto?
      Love to you, Miriam, as you sort through. Healing these aspects within me 🙂

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      1. You’re definitely right here Tiffany, I know within myself there are things I’m holding onto, guilty and conflicting feelings tearing me up inside and I’ve no doubt they’re contributing to all these physical symptoms. Lots of soul searching needed. Why do I feel a post coming on?
        Thank you my dear friend for your wise and insightful words. I always love hearing from you. xo

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      2. Yes, I find that writing helps me to process SO much! And I find that sharing makes me dig deeper than I would w journaling alone.
        You’re welcome to email me whenever you’d like. I’m so grateful you find wisdom in my words ❤

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      3. I really do Tiffany. And thank you for reaching out, I really appreciate it. I’m going through a huge period of change and soul searching right now. Part of me knows exactly what I have to do but the other part is completely resisting it. You’re right though, writing is incredibly therapeutic. Thanks again. Hugs xo ❤️

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      4. Miriam, you are so very welcome! I’m grateful to be of service in any way. We each have our thing to heal and I know how hard it can be when going through and “unpacking” it all. ❤

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  2. Yes, if we don’t take care of ourselves first as we are #1 in our books, or should be, then we cannot offer 100% of care to those that need it thus depleting ourselves and feeling stressed afterwards. Stress made manifest affects your body in one way or another in aches and pains and stress could lead to other emotions such as anger, frustration etc. which are not beneficial to our bodies. How can you offer a clean vibration to others if yours vibrated on a negative charge….doesn’t make sense to offer to others negativity.

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  3. Great post with lots of resources. If you became an Amazon partner you could monetize the blog. People are probably going and buying the things that you’re suggesting if they don’t have it already, because of your recommendation. You deserve to get something for your referral and the hard work and writing. You speak the truth and we thank you.

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