It is so easy to focus on the actions of others. “So-and-so did this or that,” I say to myself, my journal or to my friends. This is often where I find myself focusing my attention: on what someone did or did not do and how that affected me. It’s an exhausting way to live with such an outward, “I can’t control what’s happening in my life” kind of focus.
The reality is that each of our lives is truly about ourselves. Yet we are taught at a young age to focus on others, because to look at ourselves is considered self-centered. Yet the truth is that the only person in this world that we can control is the one we see in the mirror.
Sadly, by focusing on what every other soul in our lives is doing, we fail to miss the power that we hold in our very hands: our power to control ourselves. When we focus outwardly, we give up our own power to do what we can do. I’m swallowing this sideways pill as I type. My power is within, yet I repeatedly give my power away when I focus on how someone else treats me. “How am I treating myself?,” is the true question.
This life is up to each of us to live. This life is up to each of us to own, for ourselves. It is up to each of us to STOP giving our power away to everyone else, because we give our power to the things we focus on and few of us focus on the things that are within ourselves.
Starting in a new way today, I’ll be eating many a servings of humble pie.
Namaste.
A powerful message that can help us move out of being a victim. ❤
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Yes! Thank you
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I love this post Tiffany. Again I can relate so strongly to it. I’m often guilty of giving away my power and not focusing enough on myself. It’s not selfish though is it to look after ourselves and do what’s right for us.xo
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I believe that when we follow our hearts we do the best for everyone… Yet more often than not we move through life by following our fears. We’ve been taught to distrust ourselves, growth is reconnecting to that inner truth. It’s a constant choice: to act out of fear or out of love. Though I do believe it gets easier. Mostly 🙂
Much love and light!
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You are quite right. We do mostly move through life following our fears. It’s a challenge to change. Thank you 💖 xo
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You’re welcome! Yes, we were trained well to live in fear. Hard habits to break!
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