Creating Emotional Boundaries

Emote means to move. Emotions are meant to move us, to propel us; to keep us moving. Yet, we can have difficulty separating our emotions from ourselves. We can begin to believe that we are our emotions. This is not the case. Just as our cars are not the fuel they run on, we are not the emotions that move through us, nor that we grasp and hold onto to and “save for another time.”

Emotions are energy. Just as we wouldn’t do well to hold onto an electrical line, it doesn’t support us to hold onto our emotions nor to suppress them nor to allow ourselves to become them. In so doing, we stagnate in some way.

To gain a healthy boundary with our emotions, we must learn and practice activating the witness within. There are different instructions and I find the following is the imagery that has worked best for me. You may find others descriptions more helpful and meaningful. I encourage you to find or develop the analogy that works best for you!

Imagine you can seat your awareness/consciousness in a saddle or a captain’s chair that is both between your eyes, and back towards the center of your brain. From here, see your emotions (and life) as a movie. In this space we acknowledge the emotions, we see them, yet we are not pulled under by them.

It is such a freeing practice and one that is best practiced as frequently as possible!


Published by Tiffany

Writing out my thoughts has helped me to gain a new perspective of myself. In sharing these writings, it is my hope to help others to better understand themselves. It is my belief that with each of us who chooses this path of greater understanding of thy self, that it inspires others to do the same. This building momentum is the force that drives me to share, for in my vulnerability, I find my strength. I believe that you can also find yours there. ~~~In reading some of my posts, you will see that growth is not always pretty. It is in breaking apart and coming undone that a seed sprouts and breaks free of its own captivity. It is also out of mud that the lotus blossoms. ~~~Please join me in seeing the beauty of growth within the deconstruction of our limiting beliefs. ~~T.C.

15 thoughts on “Creating Emotional Boundaries

  1. The communications of the universe. We can ignore, scream, laugh or even ‘listen’ to what they tell us, but like all things, a balance is our goal so that we understand them 😀
    Well written Tiffany, most certainly an important way of dealing with them, especially when they ‘unbalance’ and begin to take us to some very uncomfortable places ❤

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    1. Thank you, Mark! Yes, to hear without being deafened by our inability to allow the message. Hmm. New awareness for me there.
      I trust life is treating you well! ❤️🌅

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      1. Yes thank you. Our winter of 21C sunny days is spoiling us and allowing a very pleasant walk on the beach in shorts and short sleeve shirt each day. We did have a burst of cold weather for a week at 17C but I hear that is mid summer in some countries so I better be appreciative of what I have, it could be snowing…of which I have never seen. And as I told my blogger friend Trini, it must be time to go south and build my first snowman 😀

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      2. Wow! That sounds lovely! Sounds like you’ve had a very nice winter. Spring here was delayed. Usually we get the rain in April yet now we’re in this rain pattern for May. Some low lying inland and coastal areas flooded with the monsoon rains we had 2 days ago. It’s been unusual in the n hemisphere, too.
        Hope you get to build a snowman. Be sure to watch “Frozen” first! 😉 or at least listen to the build a snowman song 😀

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  2. What an interesting concept Tiffany, putting distance between our emotions. I can see that having real benefit, especially when emotions threaten to overwhelm. 💕

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