Anger’s Lessons

The shifts from this week have lead to me to the awareness of a significant amount of suppressed anger and sadness. While the events that lead to this awareness were seemingly innocuous, they did their job in uncovering the hidden well of emotions. It was in giving myself permission to feel my emotions that the well was tapped.

Sorting through the initial upwelling, I saw patterns emerge. Boundary violations, perceived indiscretions and abandonment were common threads. Digging deeper I found that the Golden thread in each of these scenarios was myself. As I felt this, I literally hit my bed. I gave myself permission to have a good ol’ fashioned temper tantrum.

In round two of my delving, I found that pure emotion rose up. There were not as many memories or images or impressions to go along with the anger, sadness and grief that I felt. It was just plain raw, yet needed to be allowed and felt.

Walking through as much as I could, I was breathing easier once again. And after releasing the feelings to my Higher Power, I slept somewhat restlessly.

The next morning I felt off center and while the horizons within were expanded, the edges still felt serrated. Sitting in meditation helped, where I also prayed and turned things over again. EFT was a tremendous blessing. If you struggle with difficult emotions or health issues I highly recommend learning about tapping!

Lessons learned about anger:

  • My anger is my responsibility. The stories I tell myself about why I’m angry only keep me stuck in it.
  • Judgment about anger can be more damaging than the emotion itself. By judging we often try to suppress what we’re feeling.
  • Suppressing anger is like compressing a spring. It may make the anger seem smaller, and this is only temporary. Eventually it’s going to spring back up.
  • Foods I like to eat when I’m angry are chewy or gummy, like gum or gummy bears. When I’m frustrated I like crunchy, like chips. These are warning signs that I’m suppressing, as is forceful sighing. Oh, and impatience at the littlest things…
  • Anger is the fuel for change. It can transform us into vehicles for positive changes as anger is part of the spark behind our passions. If we were happy about everything we wouldn’t want to change it nor would we be motivated to do so.
  • Anger can show us where a boundary has been violated.
  • The one person for whom I hold the most anger and unforgiveness is myself.
  • Giving ourselves permission to feel angry and being willing to forgive ourselves and any other trespassers will help get us unstuck.
  • Being angry and acting on that anger are two separate things, if we allow it to be.
  • Letting go and letting our Higher Power step in can be a tremendous relief. Asking for the situation or our perspective to change gives our Higher Power permission to act.
  • Holding onto anger only truly hurts the one holding it (meaning it only hurts me when I am holding onto or suppressing it).
  • Suppressed anger can separate and prevent feeling love or compassion for oneself or even another; this keeps us further separated.
  • Forgiveness and gratitude also help to unlock the gripping effects of suppressed anger. They open our hearts and shine light on the situation.

For me, anger was something I saw as scary, overwhelming and dangerous growing up. It was easier to suppress it than to feel or show it. I also believe that I was socialized to believe that anger wasn’t an acceptable emotion. Now I see how much it hurts me to hold it in, and how it keeps me stuck.

By allowing my anger, without judging or suppressing it, I give myself permission to change my perspectives, my life circumstances and to follow the path of my life purpose; my passion.

A good friend shared a fantastic paradigm shift with me today. To see myself as a superhuman who is able to act (and feel) in no set particular way. It’s okay to make mistakes! That’s how we learn…and teach.

May you begin to find some peace today in allowing your anger. Emotions are energy, they are here to help us to move and be moved. When we judge and suppress them, we set ourselves up for dis-ease. Let’s change that, shall we?!


Please seek professional help if your inclination is to harm yourself or others.

Published by Tiffany

Writing out my thoughts has helped me to gain a new perspective of myself. In sharing these writings, it is my hope to help others to better understand themselves. It is my belief that with each of us who chooses this path of greater understanding of thy self, that it inspires others to do the same. This building momentum is the force that drives me to share, for in my vulnerability, I find my strength. I believe that you can also find yours there. ~~~In reading some of my posts, you will see that growth is not always pretty. It is in breaking apart and coming undone that a seed sprouts and breaks free of its own captivity. It is also out of mud that the lotus blossoms. ~~~Please join me in seeing the beauty of growth within the deconstruction of our limiting beliefs. ~~T.C.

14 thoughts on “Anger’s Lessons

    1. Thank you! Dang, I forgot to include my own most used strategy for recovery and one of the main reasons behind my blogging: hidden in plain site.
      May peace also be with you! Xoxo

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  1. Those sigh’s are the first signs of stress Tiffany. Leading up to those sigh’s we are beginning to stress which fires up our adrenal gland, it is getting ready for the fight or flight response. But the problem is…we never run away from something so we keep getting this pool of adrenal in our systems that over time begin to make us feel sick in the stomach (like when you do have a shot of adrenal from seeing a snake and afterwards it leaves us feeling sick in the stomach). The body wants to run by breathing more to get more oxygen into our bodies, but we never do. That is our endocrine (auto) system in action. That is why when we feel that anxiety beginning to build we should in fact break this cycle in two ways. Force it to slow down by breathing into a bag for a few moments until it subsides (it reduces the oxygen that feeds the fight or flight response…and you need to do a relaxation meditation by focusing on relaxing your feet for a minute, then your calf’s for a minute, then your thighs (and so on up to your head). Those few minutes take back control of that response. When we get very anxious this anxiety response becomes quite erratic and can fire up for no reason, even while your asleep in the middle of the night. The slowing down and breathing in the bag or even into your cupped hands as well as that quick meditation to slow the body’s response down will take back that control.
    Many years ago I suffered from that condition of anxiety all over the place, I thought I was dying it was that bad. But after doing the above I found almost straight away that I could stop the initial attack and after about 2 weeks of just doing the meditation the attacks were getting longer between them. Once you realise you actually do have control of what is happening your confidence grows enormously and you know your going to be ok.
    If you wish to read any more on this go to my post ‘Anxiety/panic attack help!’. It was my savior to finding sanity again 😀

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    1. Thank you so much for your in-depth reply, Mark! I appreciate your experience and how you were able to shift yourself out of anxiety. I will try this the next time it happens. ❤️

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  2. Ah astrologically spot on post as Mars stations to turn backwards in a few days and this is the best time to work to gain these kinds of insights. We cannot by pass anger on our way to healing and learning how to let go of the hurt from those wounds inflicted on us so they dont harden or implode is very important. Something I have struggled with over the past 14 years of my recovery. Thank you for this.

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  3. It is so true: “Emotions are energy, they are here to help us to move and be moved. When we judge and suppress them, we set ourselves up for dis-ease.” When understanding and releasing them we let the energy flows. Thank you for a great post!

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