Demystifying Traumatic Stress: It’s really not mental – initially

Despite the common belief that stress is “mental and controllable,” the stress response is actually a reflex. This means that the conscious (cerebral cortex) part of our brain is not involved in the process. When faced with an event that threatens us, leaves us feeling helpless or that horrifies us, our stress response is activated. This means that even a threat can activate the stress response.

So what is the stress response? Many call it the fight or flight response, however, there is also a freeze response, too. With the stress response, the body goes into overdrive. Muscles tense to prepare for action. Our senses become piqued – to take in more information. Our brains also have difficulty focusing during this time, probably to help us to respond to any changes in our surroundings. Breathing and heart rates increase to support the increased demand of oxygen for our muscles. Meanwhile, our digestive tract shuts down, to shunt energy and blood flow to our other organs that are geared for survival.

Sometimes, we can even dissociate – or feel like we are “out of our bodies.” In extreme cases, where we believe that death is imminent, these same process occur and yet our muscles freeze in place and we are unable to move.

In nature, animals who experience a stress response work through the cascade of biochemical reactions by the actions of fighting, fleeing or literally “shaking if off” after freezing.

In his book, “Waking The Tiger: Healing Trauma,” Peter Levine discusses the anxiety and depression that can result from blunting or blocking the unfolding of the trauma response. In our modern society, we often suppress this natural “reset” process. This is when the conscious control takes hold and can “get us into trouble” and may lead to long-term effects such as Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder or PTSD. According to Levine, it is in allowing ourselves to unfold from the trauma that we are able to move beyond it.

Trauma is confusing. It can shake us to our cores and cause us to question our safety, our roles and how we are living our lives. When the trauma becomes “stuck” within us, we can mess up in even our basic roles. Parents can forget to parent. Students can have difficulty studying. Employees can have difficulty focusing. In our confusion, in a way, we forget who we are.

The unprocessed trauma also gets locked in our bodies and can also cause physical effects. For instance, over a week after being on scene following a fatal motorcycle accident, I noticed difficulty moving my left arm. As a physical therapist, I began to investigate the muscles and low & behold, my neck and shoulder muscles were “on fire,” so I naturally began to release the tension. The next day, I had a headache and felt like every sound was piercing my body. It was bizarre. I can only guess that unlocking the tension in my muscles released some of the unprocessed chemicals from the stress response. More things then began to unwind.

Things which usually were easy for me to do were suddenly a challenge. I could not focus if there were noises around. I felt like I had ADHD and sitting still was torture. I wanted to move – I wanted to keep going – didn’t necessarily know where, but movement was imperative. Rushing became my M.O. – again, for no external reason, I just felt like everything was moving in slo-mo and it was time to speed it all up. As such, my ability to prioritize was also off. Everything had an air of vital importance, and needed to be completed NOW! Or two minutes ago.

I was driving myself (and my children) crazy. It was at this point that I decided to read about the traumatic stress response, when everything that I was experiencing began to make sense. And it was then that I also stopped fighting it. Soon enough, the irritation dimmed down quite significantly. While sadness soon followed, after a day or so my smile returned.

What I discovered first-hand in this process was what Levine described: that allowing the process to unfold, I was able to return to a greater sense of clarity. Do I believe the process is over, no, I don’t. Yet I am in a better place now than I was even a week ago.

Self-care during this sensitive time has been crucial. I have used each and every one of these following tools; some more than others. Luckily, many of these were part of my daily routine.

May we each find and use the supportive tools we each need in recovery.

These are the things that I have found helpful in this process:

  • Prayer & prayer requests
  • Constellation Therapy Sessions
  • Awareness of my emotions and focusing on “being present” in my body, reaffirming “I am here” to bring myself more fully present
  • Allowing the tension – my visualization is to see the muscles unlocking, as if I were peeling open a banana. It sounds too simple to be true. Find an analogy/visualization that works for you. Then repeat it!
  • Daily Meditation (2 times/day at bare minimum)
  • Gratitude: for life, for my safety, for everything!
  • Salt Baths – for relaxation of tight muscles
  • Homeopathics
  • Ionic Foot Bath (yes, this was amazingly
  • helpful to get past the insomnia – really)
  • Essential Oils
  • More meditation – grounding, breathing, being present
  • Writing/Journaling
  • Qigong
  • EFT Tapping
  • Exercise: Walking, Stretching
  • Eating Well
  • “Taking it easy” – avoiding over-stimulation
  • Massages
  • Breathing
  • Researching/reading to understand the trauma response
  • Namaste
  • Published by Tiffany

    Writing out my thoughts has helped me to gain a new perspective of myself. In sharing these writings, it is my hope to help others to better understand themselves. It is my belief that with each of us who chooses this path of greater understanding of thy self, that it inspires others to do the same. This building momentum is the force that drives me to share, for in my vulnerability, I find my strength. I believe that you can also find yours there. ~~~In reading some of my posts, you will see that growth is not always pretty. It is in breaking apart and coming undone that a seed sprouts and breaks free of its own captivity. It is also out of mud that the lotus blossoms. ~~~Please join me in seeing the beauty of growth within the deconstruction of our limiting beliefs. ~~T.C.

    13 thoughts on “Demystifying Traumatic Stress: It’s really not mental – initially

    1. And in this day of zoom, zoom our autonomic systems are getting a hammering Tiffany. I show people the stress they are under and they don’t believe me…till they reach ‘that place’ where it all comes tumbling down.
      Glad to hear you have intercepted yours and showed it another way ❤ 😀

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      1. Thank you, Mark! Yes, the zoom-zoom doesn’t help us unwrap, does it? I’m beginning to wonder if the zoom-zoom is a result of past family traumas that are unprocessed and leads parents to want to rush everything… just a thought 💭
        Always nice to hear from you! Hoping winter is treating you well. We’re celebrating Christmas in July at work today. Lol

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        1. What most people don’t realise is that very zoom, zoom is so that they don’t have to stop and look at themselves. It is an action to blot any and all emotional pain. We all do it in varying degrees, keeping ourselves busy to stop thinking about it until it becomes a habit. But the universe in its great wisdom allows us to keep going until the cracks appear and the light begins to show us exactly what is wrong 😀
          Going well thank you kind lady. Maybe not doing Christmas in July but feeling good. A little disappointed here in Australia (NSW) this morning (its 6am). We have had beautiful clear skies for weeks so I was looking forward to the eclipse this morning, and of course the cloud cover came over after midnight and blanketed everything. But I know my little lady (the moon, I’m a Cancer), is also like you and having a ball up there dancing in our shadow. What more could I ask for 😀 ❤

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        2. Oh, man! Sorry to hear about the untimely cloud cover. I don’t think the eclipse viewing was an option here, but I got a good look at the full moon while it was still closer to the horizon. Big and beautiful, she was!

          And so true about the zoom-zoom. I guess I feel that it’s also taught to us. I have to be very conscientious to not rush my kids at times and especially during the timeframe I mention in the post. “I am here” was such a saving grace!

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    2. Brilliant post. I wish Peter Levine’s work had a wider audience, why with all the programs on mental health have I never seen a documentary featuring his work? It really is seminal. Undischarged energy can live within our systems for years and just replay over and over again and when we get stuck in fear flight fight or freeze there is no way out. But he offers a solution learn to bear and release the discharge. Its not easy but it can be done.

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