Recently it became apparent to me that I’d rather hold onto the pain of my past than to allow for something better, and to prevent from feeling lonely. It was something I did not realize that I was doing, thinking nor believing. In some ways, this recognition still seems somewhat surreal to me: who the heck would hold onto their pain? (well, me, that’s who…for starters).
In speaking with my creative life coach, Sam, I told her that I still felt there was something in the way of a fuller expression of my creativity. She had me sit back, take a few deep breaths and then she asked me for what I “saw” (as in visualized) when I went within the part of me that felt something was in the way. Immediately, I saw myself standing on a catwalk over a huge dam. The water was spilling over the top, yet there was still much of the river being held back.
Next, Sam asked me to allow the river to flow more readily in a way that was comfortable for me. The dam wall then began to retract downwards and the water was fully released. In fact, it was released to the point that I sat in a dried up river bed looking up at an empty expanse of “nothing.”
It really bothered me to be in this vacuity. It was not a complete vacuum, yet the space was immense and left me feeling utterly lonely. Almost immediately, I was looking up at the walls of the canyon, wanting to climb out. She asked me to stay and reluctantly, I did so. Eventually, I began to feel at peace in this inner landscape of my own making.
It was later in the week that I saw the pattern emerging that I was also more comfortable holding onto scraps than allowing myself to wait for something better. Again, pain was my companion.
Now when I feel that I’m hoarding my emotions, or my emotional responses to something, I am sitting with it and imagining the whole dam(n) wall retracting into the ground. All of the emotions are then able to move freely. Sometimes I am left at the bottom of the riverbed, other times I grow out of the canyon.
What I’m seeing is that in allowing the emotions to run their course internally I can then see things differently. I no longer need to hold onto my pain to avoid feeling lonely… pain no longer needs to be my companion.
May we each find peace with our pain, allowing it all to flow so that we can each live more fully again.
Namaste
Sitting on that vacuum accepting all that’s around us sounds pretty powerful Tiffany. Sounds as though Sam’s been a big help.
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Miriam, she has! I highly recommend her! She’s helped to guide me through so many challenges this past year and some.
I trust you are well! ❤️
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I’m so glad. And yes, I’m well, thanks Tiffany. ❤️
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Your ability to evolve creatively continues to blow me away Tiffany and your honesty with yourself is the anchor for this process. You capture your new awareness so articulately in this post and I feel privileged to coach you. Keep flowing and growing 🙂 xxx
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Thank you, Sam, on so many levels! I’m so very grateful for your guidance ❤️ doing my best to receive your words completely 😉
Namaste 🙏
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