I have spent much of my life feeling that there was something inherently wrong with me, having felt haunted by some “deep dark secret” that I could not touch nor fully understand. This feeling has been both a blessing and a curse. It both drives me forward into greater levels of self-exploration while at times it weighs me down and can inhibit my connection with others. Writing has been one of my vehicles for self-exploration and understanding. Then recently a friend of mine shared his experiences with The Enneagram System. In delving into the system, my self-understanding and sense of inner peace has greatly accelerated, helping to “lay to rest” some of the gnawing sense of shame from the unnamed “deep dark secret.” It is my hope that through The Enneagram that you will discover a greater understanding and peace, too.
The Enneagram System
The Enneagram is a unique personality typing system that shows the interconnection between the nine basic personality types. Through this system we see how we are interconnected with all personalities, even though our basic personalities form the foundation of who we are. Each personality has 2 variants called wings, which reveal how the same basic personality can have variable expressions. The system also includes a continuum of how stress and wellness can affect each personality. We can use this information to move towards greater wellness and peace.
Enneagram testing* sites:
- Enneagram Test with Instinctual Variants (free, no personal info required). This was my personal favorite, as it offers a broader continuum for each response with fewer questions making it “short and sweet.”
- Enneagram Test (free, no personal info required). This offers 3 options for each question: yes, partly and no.
- The RHETI by The Enneagram Institute: ($12.00) This test was “either or” for each of 144 questions, which can be a challenge to choose between at times.
*The challenge with the Enneagram test is that we can reply differently depending on where we are on the wellness-stress continuum, causing misidentifications. This is why the test results are reported with options and reading the various descriptions can be helpful.
Brief Descriptions of The Enneagram Personality Types, with links from the Enneagram Institute:
- The Reformer, Type One: The Rational, Idealist
- The Helper, Type Two: The Caring, Interpersonal Type
- The Achiever, Type Three: The Self-Oriented Pragmatist
- The Individualist, Type Four: The Sensitive, Introspective Type
- The Investigator, Type Five: The Intense, Cerebral Type
- The Loyalist, Type Six: The Committed, Security-Oriented Type
- The Enthusiast, Type Seven: The Busy, Variety Seeker
- The Challenger, Type Eight: The Powerful, Dominating Type
- The Peacemaker, Type Nine: The Easy-going, Self-Effacing Type
For more detail about the Enneagram types:
- The Road Back to You: The Enneagram Story of Self-Discovery (book) by Ian Morgan Cron and Suzanne Stabile. Offers type-specific ways to become more heathy and to grow spiritually.
- Enneagram Personality descriptions with Wings/variants
- Typology Podcasts Hearing others describe their experiences within the same personality type resonated far more deeply for me than reading the written descriptions. The panel also gave insights into what the written descriptors meant, again giving greater acceptance.
- How Enneagram and The Myers-Briggs Temperament Sorter Compare
The Types and Relationships
Once you know your own and another’s Enneagram types, you can look up the overview of potential strengths and weaknesses within all types of relationships, here.
Freedom in Understanding
It is my hope that you will have a greater sense of self-appreciation and understanding through “seeing” your own personality through the podcasts, descriptions and interactions with other personality types.
May we each find greater peace through greater understanding and appreciation of ourselves.
Please feel free to share your type & what you discovered! My Enneagram: Type 4 wing 3.