This world is filled with hurt people who, in turn, inevitably hurt others. Whether it’s done consciously or not, it is contagious. Each time we can remove the barriers we have created around our emotions, we free ourselves (and others) from mental and emotional slavery; even if only by degrees. In so doing, we becomeContinue reading “Expanding Horizons”
Category Archives: anxiety/fear
Unf#ck Your Brain, The Book
Unf#ck Your Brain by Faith G. Harper, PhD practically screamed my name when looking for something different to read while vacationing. Maybe it was the bright yellow cover or maybe it was just the title. Either way, I’m grateful as f#ck because this has turned out to be yet another one of those life-changing books.Continue reading “Unf#ck Your Brain, The Book”
In Lack of Control & The Miracles that Followed
One primary persona of mine is to walk with confidence and appear to be “calm and under control;” the emotions pour out later. In this “mode,” I can hear my father’s mantra to be “calm, cool and collected” reverberating in my cranium. Recently, that persona broke wide the eff open for me. While it’s been an ongoing processContinue reading “In Lack of Control & The Miracles that Followed”
The Fear of Being Loved
For as long as I can remember, I have sought for love. Perhaps it is the hopeful and “hopeless romantic” within (see Enneagram 4). There has always been this underlying feeling of being incomplete; an irredeemable deficiency as described by Ian Morgan Cron, a fellow “4”. In diving into this incessant need to be loved andContinue reading “The Fear of Being Loved”
Faith in Receiving
It is very easy for me to give, ’tis much harder to receive. I give of my time, patience, efforts and knowledge to others everyday. Sometimes I get paid for it and sometimes I don’t. Religious dogma and society support giving more than receiving. “It’s better to give than to receive,” Acts 20:35 (KJV). Welfare recipientsContinue reading “Faith in Receiving”
Seizing the Moment
How often do we miss fully immersing ourselves in the beauty of the present moment because our minds or our bodies are elsewhere? Today, I am literally composing this post while my toes are dipping into the calm waters near the mouth of the Chesapeake Bay. Yet, my mind is dwelling on the past orContinue reading “Seizing the Moment”
The Heart’s Desire for Connection
We run away from it. We chase it. We deny it. We make fun of it and we deny or destroy it. Yet underneath all of the layers, what we really long for is connection with ourselves, with others, and with Our Higher Power. Connection scares us. It leaves us vulnerable to our basic fears:Continue reading “The Heart’s Desire for Connection”
It’s Okay to be Okay
This lesson may be just as, if not more, difficult to understand than “being okay with not being okay.” When things are going well for me, I find that I look for the “bad things” on the horizon. Why can I not be okay with what’s happening? When life is going well, it’s as ifContinue reading “It’s Okay to be Okay”
The Rise After The Fall: Having Fun While Overcoming Fears Part II
Last weekend, I went “surfing” again. This time I took along a friend who was inspired by my surfing story because she, too, had had a fear of “deep water.” She said that she would try surfing if she had a friend to go with her. So we gave it a go! While the wavesContinue reading “The Rise After The Fall: Having Fun While Overcoming Fears Part II”
Emotional Freedom Begins With You
Emotional freedom comes from repeatedly choosing to observe our emotions and thoughts objectively; as a witness would. Otherwise, our thoughts and emotions rule us or we attempt to rule and suppress them (and then they eventually pop up again, either in obvious or secretive ways). The phrase ‘repeatedly choosing’ is also important here. Just asContinue reading “Emotional Freedom Begins With You”
