For as long as I can remember, I have sought for love. Perhaps it is the hopeful and “hopeless romantic” within (see Enneagram 4). There has always been this underlying feeling of being incomplete; an irredeemable deficiency as described by Ian Morgan Cron, a fellow “4”. In diving into this incessant need to be loved andContinue reading “The Fear of Being Loved”
Category Archives: healing relationships
2018: Celebrating Wholeness & Completion
For 2019, I’m choosing to celebrate the New Year differently. For the first time, I’m going to ring in the New Year solo. In the past, I would have been in a panic to be alone. While I do have places where I could celebrate, I’m actually looking forward to the solitude. This desire isContinue reading “2018: Celebrating Wholeness & Completion”
Recovering from Heartbreak: Taking it to the Next Level
Healing from heartbreak can be a drawn out and difficult process. It can seem to take forever because we don’t like feeling hurt or that we are broken. Often we suppress our feelings and try to rush the process in our desire to feel “A-OKAY” which can further prolong the process. Idealizing the person andContinue reading “Recovering from Heartbreak: Taking it to the Next Level”
Rebuilding Connections with Ourselves and Others
Pushing and pulling, we move through life. Resisting and stopping, we stagnate and can die inside. We are human beings, yet all of this action means we are constantly doing and disconnecting. What if we’re always busy doing so much that we’re missing the point? I remember as a child that I always wanted toContinue reading “Rebuilding Connections with Ourselves and Others”
Allowing the Transformation
It is in allowing, instead of fighting against the shackles, that we set ourselves free. It can be a challenge to have patience when we’ve decided to make changes in our lives. We often move from status quo to “green light go, go, go” in .24 seconds. When we push to have the changes takeContinue reading “Allowing the Transformation”
Detoxing Addictions both Emotional and Chemical
A few weeks ago, I posted a prayer request for a loved one to receive the support s/he needed. This person was not eating regular meals, and instead was drinking a superhuman amount of vodka per day. Since then, s/he has started the detox process and is eating again, returning to human status. In developingContinue reading “Detoxing Addictions both Emotional and Chemical”
Living Our Dreams
How can you fully grasp the new dream if you’re still holding onto the old reality? Surrender is the name of the game. Repeatedly giving over all which does not serve to our higher power. This opens our channels so that we can receive the new dream. Remaining grounded and connected to ourselves keeps usContinue reading “Living Our Dreams”
Is How We Relate Healthy?
Fire up the spit, because I’m going to roast myself! No, not literally, but figuratively. Before unleashing the mea culpa, I have some thought-provoking questions for you: Do you have a hard time asking for or receiving help or “handouts?” Yet, do you often “give ’til it hurts?” Do you then feel resentful when you helpContinue reading “Is How We Relate Healthy?”
The 8-Minute Miracle Shift Every Parent and Child Needs
After an emotionally stressful day at work taking care of post-divorce fall-out, and wrestling with some personal demons, I drove directly to my children’s school to pick them up. They were in their after-school programs and being away from them all day, it had been my habit to make a bee-line to each of theirContinue reading “The 8-Minute Miracle Shift Every Parent and Child Needs”
The Nihilism of Parental Perfectionism
As a new mother, I was especially keen on how I viewed what would make me a better mother and what wouldn’t. I was very judgmental in my views of myself. My views became so narrowed in their focus, however, that I was missing the bigger picture. In trying to live up to an unrealisticContinue reading “The Nihilism of Parental Perfectionism”
