Love is the Answer

We seek out Love in others in the form of affirmations, acceptance, intimacy and affection; to name just a few. Yet this Love cannot truly fill our needs. It is but a band-aid over our greater need. 

The challenge is seeing that we each hold in our own hands the chalice of Love. It is our own purpose to fill our own chalice with our own love. We each have a unique energy that is required for us, as individuals, to heal. Seeking love from others, in objects, our careers, our status or Social Media outlets just keeps us running from the truth: our own love is the best salve for any wound. Anything else is mere imitation. If we cannot love ourselves, we don’t trust the love of others.

To move up in life, it’s important to propel ourselves forward with hearts filled with more love than fear; more patience than impatience; more compassion than apathy; more trust than distrust. The Love that starts from within is the answer. Even loving “the suck” is imperative….

How today, and everyday, can we each add something to our own cups? 


Love at The Core & Bridges NaPoWriMo13

Bridges are lifelines; a connection.
They are gateways to new worlds;
a transition.

Bridges are filled with secret mysteries.
They both frighten and fascinate me.
Travelers on them, travel with vulnerability.

Bridges are communication between lands.
Yet so often we take them for granted.
Until the connection is broken or blocked.


As I walked the beach this week,
I marveled more than my usual
at the beauty of a local bridge.

Even bridges need support,
the pilings whisper
as I take their picture.

Yet so often travelers overlook
the support from below.
Like the bridge, we are fully supported.

The key we so often miss,
is the heart at the core, our nucleus.
We push, when all we need to do is exist
within this nucleus.

When we can be with the purity
at the center, it changes the nature
of the electron field.

We draw to ourselves based on
what we allow at the core.
Our actions, when driven from here
keep the motor moving.


Go now and live in your own Heart’s center.
There you will find all answers.
Cleanse your magnet, attracting more others
Who speak your language, fluently.

It’s okay to ask for help when you need it.
Each piling relies on the others to do its job.
Interdependence helps win this game called life. 

Be connected in Love, through your heart.
Not your mind, this is the most important part.
Love for Love’s sake.

It is here where you will find your wholeness
always existed. 


Miriam at Out and About has a post about bridges that I feel fits nicely into this theme of seeing life differently.

Images: author

I send love… NaPoWriMo5

I send love
on the wind
to hearts broken.

I send love
on a whim
to loves lost.

I send love
to him the one
who believes I can soar.

I send love
to all of them
who have left my door.

I send love
to those crying
out in pain.

I send love
to those crying
from their shame.

I send love
to all hearts

I send love
that is golden
when I feel most pure.

I send love
to the one
whose unseen hand
supports my movements,
who understands that emotions
are weathered like any storm
knowing the sun shines forevermore
at each moment on some part of the World.

I send love.
I am that I am.
No need now for further explanation.


It’s Time to Wake Up

Many of us are hibernating our greatness inside the shells of our fears. It is time to wake up to our greatest potential. Open your heart and mind to yourself. Love the hurts. Love the many faces and facets of yourself that have hurt and that have been hurt. Allow the past to be the past. Be willing to forgive others and yourself for any trespasses. Look into your shadow and love each bit of you as much as you can. The more you can love you the more you can be compassionate with others. 

Love the parts of you that get irritated when you see something amiss in another. Unconditional love is what we’re going for here. 

Release the conditions of your own parole. Release the conditions of the bondage of your soul. 

Be willing to wake up and be vulnerable. Guarding and hiding is no longer serving humanity. It’s time to wake up. Let slip off the shell of your fears. 

When you begin to ask yourself “what is wrong with me?,” change perspective and instead ask “What is it that’s trying to break through in me? What is it that’s trying to emerge?” The former closes your heart and the latter helps to keep it open. This leads you to the next level of awareness and creativity instead of holding you back in the slumber of fears. 

For the sake of humanity, wake the eff up and learn to love the person in the mirror. It starts with you! ❤️

mixed desires

the desire to be desired,
yet not be used or consumed.
~the desire to speak my truth.

the desire to be trusting & vulnerable
yet not to be abused.
~the desire to please you.

the desire to meet you,
yet to myself remain true.

Love Your Inner Freak

We have been taught all of our lives to hide our greatest and “unwanted” aspects. Maybe even as adults we discover new aspects of ourselves that we then feel we must hide, even from ourselves. Love is accepting ourselves, our eccentricities and our messiness even in the face of seeming rejection. 

Blocking love to our inner freak keeps us stuck in a civil war of constant pain and suffering. In Civil War, no one wins.  When we reject ourselves there is nowhere to flee. It is then that we seek external stimuli and addictions to distract ourselves; sometimes we seek validation from others, another form of addiction

The willingness to keep practicing love, faith and self-care tools, even when it’s tough, can be the difference between folding or flying. Healing is about removing the obstacles to our love and loving ourselves in spite of our seeming freakiness. 

Agape to you


Love is …

~the warm sunshine after the cold
~the crocuses pushing up through the snow
~the curtains blowing with ease in the summer breeze
~the grace that fills the holes left by the pain


~the force that pushes us to greater heights
~the pain that encourages us to shed our old ways
~the voice that shows us a new way
~ubiquitous: it’s everything & it’s everywhere




I saw & so I loved

I saw his struggle  & so I loved my resistance.

I saw his tenderness & so I loved my compassion.

I saw her bitterness & so I loved my anger.

I saw her sparkle & so I loved my brilliance.

I saw his strength & so I loved my fortitude.

I saw her resilience & so I loved my struggles.

I saw myself in each person I met today & I loved myself more for it in a new way.

Please join me in this journey of love and acceptance. Each person we meet is our mirror, reflecting back to us a part of ourselves that deserves love and recognition: the dark and the light. Each little and big bit! 

Happy holidays! 


Image: google 

Sweet Dreams Are Made of These….

A dear friend recently reminded me that I need to write the story to bring a solid partnership into my life. While she first said this over a month ago, it has only been in the last week or so that I finally came to a place where I believed that I am both worthy and capable of having such a partnership.  So here goes, I’ll make a wish as I blow out the candle. 🔥

What I’m sharing here is my vision of my dream partner and our relationship. I know all too well that discord is a necessary part of growth, that relationships require work, and that one person/relationship cannot fulfill all aspects outlined here all of the time. So allow a girl to at least dream…deal?!

The most important quality of this relationship is that when we are together, we feel at home. While we each carry this quality individually, the internal home fires glow more brightly when we are together. As such, we are an anchor of support for one another; a well-grounded type of home base. 

While we are comfortable in our respective skins as well as ourselves as individuals, we can share more of ourselves with the other than we can with any other person. In this way we are best friends. The following traits and qualities help support the partnership.

Characteristics of the relationship:

  • Passionate & Loving. Physical affection is a very important component; it’s truly the best gift for me to receive and to give.
  • A love of learning & teaching; we “Geek out” on overlapping and individual topics. 
  • Erotic/sensual with an openess to exploration. I am doubting my desire to be monogamous long-term. Unsure what this entails for the future – polyamory or just a sexually open relationship…so being open is important for more deeply exploring boundaries.
  • Unmasked. A willingness & desire to be vulnerable even if mostly behind closed doors. 
  • Expressive. We are able to effectively communicate, which includes listening, while exploring emotional, mental and spiritual realms. At times, this includes non-verbal communication, an inner knowing that may not have an explanation.
  • Multi-faceted with a willingness to share different dimensions together.
  • Humanitarian. Working together to help others to better themselves while also looking within to better ourselves, respectively.
  • Free-spirited. Allows for growth, exploration and some level of independence. Now that I’m free, there’s no going back to being tethered, manipulated nor controlled…outside of the “bedroom” that is. 😉
  • Trusting and trustworthy. Honesty is implied. 
  • Physically active and “on the go” at least part of the time. Chillin’ can also be therapeutic.
  • Accountable. We hold each other to higher levels of potentiality.
  • Creative. Required for exploration, whether done together or apart. 
  • Humility with a sense of humor. It is required that we be able to joke one another. 
  • Compassionate. We understand that even the best intentions can be frought with human error. Forgiveness is a huge part of this…
  • Respectful. We don’t always agree, and can still be respectful of the others differences.
  • Resilient. Able to withstand change, pressure and remains true even when put to the test. This takes 2. 

Balanced, the ways in which we offer variation for one another:

  • His Boyish innocence to my practicality.
  • His Dominant to my submissive & vice versa (though we can switch or be neutral from time-to-time)
  • His Protectiveness to my nurturing 
  • Seductive. He is a great kisser whose hands are drawn like magnets to my body. For me, feeling desired is such a huge component to my sexuality (note: as it is for most women). Yet he also gives me the space to be the seductress.

Individual characteristics:

  • Kid-friendly, without wanting more of his own this factory is closed 😉
  • He is a gentleman & doesn’t just play one on TV. 
  • He is intelligent (degrees are not necessary) “Make love to her mind and her body will surely follow.”
  • Somewhat cocky, like salt though, too much can ruin the soup
  • He is 6’2″ or taller (a 5’8.5″ girl can dream, so he’s still taller than me when I’m in my 4″ platform stilettos 👠)
  • He has a truck that’s big enough for me to be challenged to drive…and I know how to drive a stick (my beloved Jeep is a 6-speed, after all…).There may just be a double-entendres or two right there.
  • He has a somewhat muscular build, though without spending most of his spare time in the gym. Icing on the top is for him to look like Tom Welling (again, a girl can dream)
  • Tattoos are also awesome, yet not mandatory 

Here is an excellent summary from a recent card reading: Dutiful, diligent and devoted to a job well done –these are the characteristics of the mature man who is committed to working hard on your behalf and will help you find the answers you seek to your problems (remember, this is a card reading). Don’t be afraid to trust this man. While he may appear to have the head of a dreamer and the heart of a wanderer, beneath that restless spirit lies a deep commitment to humanity and an ocean’s worth of love to offer the right partner.

Interestingly, the queen of the same suit seems to describe me and also appeared in the reading: The woman highlighted in this matter is an achiever who is dedicated, hard-working, and steadfast in her objectives. When an important job needs to be done, she is the one to do it. While she is a visionary at heart and can tend to be swept away by her ideals, she can be practical and pragmatic about life as well. The matter in question will soon take on a new direction through the efforts of such a woman.

So be it.

Image: Hubble & google 

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