Being the Key Master to Your Own Happiness 

When we desire something that we don’t have, we have a tendency to focus on all of the good qualities and how the person, place, thing or idea will fix our problems.

Similarly, when we feel great and excited about someone in our lives, we often place that person on a pedestal. They seem to be bathed in golden light and they shimmer in our eyes. The world spins just at it should and the birds sing. At least for a time, that person can do nothing wrong.

On the other hand, when we have something in our lives that we do not wish to have, we often paint it black. Excess weight, an ex lover, a boss or coworker, an old car, etc can become the bane of our existence. 

Likewise, when we perceive that someone has done us wrong, we can be quick to denounce him or her. All signs of the pedestal are removed along with the glowing light. We find and focus on everything that is wrong with that person and we magnify those faults. Even the good memories are often perceived differently.

How we perceive the world around us and the people in it is a direct reflection of our inner world: both shadow (what we hide from others and even ourselves) and persona (what we show the world). When we take the time to look within, we begin to see that “out there” is truly just a protection from within: The Good, The Bad & The Ugly.

Where we feel broken, angry or sad inside, we project that outwards onto the world and others. When we can see and accept the depth and breadth of our shadows, then we can experience ourselves as whole. This does not mean we act upon our deepest secret desires, instead it means we acknowledge them so they no longer control us. It is then that we can experience the peace within which we seek without. 

We each carry within us the keys to our own happiness. We are our own key masters. When we can understand this, we can set ourselves free.


Permission to be Happy

Why wait for every aspect of your life to be okay before you can allow yourself to feel happiness?

Why wait for those last dreadful pounds to lose their grip on your hips to feel alive inside?

Why wait for the perfect mate, leaving so much of your life to someone else’s fate, before embracing yourself and all that you are?

Why wait until you have lost your health, your mind, or your mate to truly live?

Give yourself permission today to envision and then live, starting on the inside, the life you are here to live: one of connectedness and creativity ~ a life that is internally (and eternally) free! 

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Lost Youth Rekindled

Unfiltered from the Heart

At a young age, I learned to suppress and filter my truth, in the process I also lost my youth. Even with my blog, I’ve held so much of myself back. 

Yesterday, I reached a turning point and am in the process of changing things a bit to become “unfiltered from the heart.” This was a domain I purchased some months back. Now I’m ready to take that next step and make it happen. I want to return to speaking my truth much as babes do, unfiltered and from the heart. So expect more changes as I make some course corrections. 

Lost Youth 

While I’m more lit up (in a positive way) now than I have ever been, I still can be more “grown up” and serious than I need to be. Still in “Type A” recovery. With each ounce of fear that I surrender into, I’m allowing myself to trust The Universe and God more and more, with the sweet innocence of a child. Yet with the budding wisdom of a woman in her mid-life. Now I’m leaving behind the Shakespearean version of the Hokie Pokie. 

Choosing the Front Row

Allowing things to fly, exposing some skin – allowing myself to feel okay in spite of my perceived sins. No longer desiring to take the safe roads, or be in the third row… Yes, the first row suits me! Thank you, Sir, may I have another?

Dancing it out

Dancing in the mornings as I get ready and make breakfast has been incredibly transformative! If you haven’t taken the time to play your favorite tunes during your morning routine, I highly recommend it. Your mind, soul and hips will thank you! 

Join me, I don’t want to leave you behind! 


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Up for the Downstroke ~ Cultivating Happiness

Doing the same thing everyday becomes monotonous quickly and creates dissatisfaction.

Creating new ways to do the routine things in life adds some spice and warms the heart.

Yesterday, while I made my breakfast, I played “Up for the Downstroke” by Parliament. Though I pan-scrambled my eggs the same way I do everyday, damn, if they didn’t taste better. I think it was all the hip shaking, sliding and gliding I did while I was making them. Now I have the weekend to practice my grooves before my kids are here to witness my new routine…shaking it!

Today (and everyday) I encourage you to find a new way to bring happiness into your life. After all, happiness is truly an inside job.

Now dance like no one is watching and get up for the downstroke, that’s an order!

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What makes you happy?

Colors of Love

A blue sky with fluffy white cottony clouds.

Sun shining through the leaves of trees, framing the green with a golden border.

The sound of crickets, cicadas and grasshoppers.

Hiking through the woods, the sound of leaves and twigs crackling and snapping under my feet as I walk.

Taking pictures of beautiful things.

Running on the boardwalk.

The belly laughs of my children playing.

My daughter’s art work.

My son’s songs.




Creating, just about anything.

Helping others to feel better: about their bodies, themselves, having less pain: with walking, with life, with sex.


Hanging out with friends.


Playing cards against humanity (the last 2 items combined).

Learning cribbage (and winning my first game).

Being grateful for all of the beauty in my life.

Listening to great music.

Having great sex.

Long philosophical (or not so philosophical) conversations.

These are the things in life that open my heart, yet very few of them involve money. I spend so much of my waking life earning wages. It’s an interesting thing to see that many things that I enjoy the most, cost so little yet they have so much value.

Interesting that this so-called life is so upside-down. Maybe the argument is that people would not do for others if there were not a financial incentive. For me, I disagree. Taking care of others is in my blood, “it’s what I do.” Ut Prosim: To Serve.


Drawing by my daughter.

What we push away persists

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Find your quiet center of life and write from that to the world.
Sarah Orne Jewett

What we push away persists.

Surrender into the feelings with the faith that you will survive this.

It is in your surrender that you find the feelings begin to dissolve.

Hold yourself in this space while you breathe.

Continue to “breathe in the quiet center” until the feelings are gone.

Your next breath is more free.

Rinse and repeat.

Each time you move into your feelings,  instead of away from them,  you develop a greater mastery of your own inner world.

Your outer world is a direct reflection of your inner world.

Peace, love and happiness are yours to hold. It’s your choice,  babe.


PS I have since discovered this great video by Teal Swan, she goes further into this process.

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