There are times in our lives where events, that are often traumatic, lead us to want to “wrap things up” and put a bow on them. Senseless deaths or murders, such as school shootings or other acts of violence leave us grasping for understanding. Yesterday, I was almost involved in an accident in which there was a fatality. Hours after the Adrenalin wore off, I sat in silence as the various images raced through my mind. The speed at which the images flashed began to crescendo, and it was then that I realized that this was not my mystery to solve. It is not my place to make sense of it all. Instead, it is my place to do what I can to help others out. It is my place to be the best I can be in these situations that test my faith. My “small mind” cannot grasp the big picture here (nor anywhere, it seems). This realization has lead me to re-examine how I am living my own life. I’m asking myself: where am I unhappy? Where do I need to shift my focus to allow more joy? Where do I take life (way, way, way) too seriously? With these new thoughts in mind, I am beginning to mentally redesign how I view my life: it’s time to really appreciate all that I do have and to laugh more. A lot more. May you be well. May you find more joy today in the simple things. Namaste
Just as the tides ebb and flow, life is meant to move so that we can grow. When the sands beneath your feet begin to shift, what do you do?
Do you tighten your grip?
Do you let go and trust?
If you’re like me, the first thing you want to do is to dig in, deep. However, with time, I’m learning to relax my grip sooner rather than later; allowing the tides to shift without getting all bent.
What I’m beginning to see, again and again, is that regardless of my fear and gripping that changes unfold accordingly. So what is the purpose of holding on to something I cannot truly influence, anyway?!
Being grounded and being present are helpful when sudden shifts hit. Feeling into the body, any physical sensations can help you to be more present.
Ongoing resilience can be built through meditation and allowing of emotions. While these strategies do not change the life circumstances per se, they can help us to be more flexible when the shifts occur. With greater resilience, we learn to gain trust and grip less.
Just as light, sound and water travel in waves, in life we have ups and downs as a natural ebb and flow of our energies. We will move or be moved. The sands beneath our feet will shift. How we choose to respond can affect how well we shift into the emerging energies. So will you fight it or allow it?
Making positive changes in our lives is a process. However, I find that many people (including myself) seek huge changes and become disappointed if those changes do not occur overnight. This can be a challenge, because this can keep us from appreciating the subtle shifts that can lead to bigger changes.
At the onset of any journey, just a few degrees of change in the beginning can lead to bigger changes further down the path. Acknowledging subtle changes early on can also help us to see and appreciate greater shifts as we move forward.
So while we nurture big dreams and visions, knowing that all of the little changes that we make today allows for greater pieces to fall into place tomorrow. Even if the shifts today are by small degrees, by continually redirecting our focus on the prize allows us to make our way to it. Even if sometimes appears that the change is only by a few degrees those degrees add up to big changes in the long run.
Just as I share these thoughts, I am applying them to my own life; reminding myself that this is a process. Growth occurs at the edges of our comfort zone and to get where we are going next we need to push that growth edge on a daily basis. For it is the cumulative change that we seek. Today, by choosing to live a little differently, we affirm the changes we seek. Instead, to stay where we were yesterday, prevents us from being better and greater tomorrow. With each degree that we allow ourselves to expand into new territories, the more our perspective changes and the more we can better see the next right step to take.
“I am learning to appreciate the subtle changes that I am making today.”
Recently, I had the pleasure of working with Seth at gjseth.org on the concept of making positive life changes & this post is the result! It was a pleasure to work with someone whose passion is going to take him places. Please check out the post, then pursue & follow Seth’s blog. I’m confident you’ll learn something new!
When in survival mode, we go into auto-pilot and we allow our biology to move through time and space in a reaction to our circumstances. This is incredibly disempowering and can also be very depressing. Here we will talk about ways in which we have shifted from surviving and enduring life in a reactive way to thriving and enjoying life in a responsive way.
Today marks a benchmark of 100 followers for tiffanybeingfree. I’m super excited, at the end of 2015, the number was closer to 50. Thank you all so much for being part of this journey. I hope I’ve given you something you can grow, or at least chew upon!
I was going to wait to announce site changes until I was done with the-categorization, but this being a cause for celebration, am letting the cat out of the bag…Over the last month, I’ve been working on some level to create massive changes to my site classification/taxonomy and layout.
While it’s still a work in progress, I’ve completed the Lion’s share of the work…some categories were eliminated and this has left many pieces unclassified. So check it out!
I hope you enjoy the new look, feel and ease of navigation of the site!
Have a great day! Whether working or playing.
Today they lay his body
to its final rest.
The second father,
Of the man to which I was
Connected for half my life.
To have known such a man for so many years,
To never to have seen so much as a tear.
My heart goes out to his, his family
His mother, too.
From a group so once connected.
To miss such a transition.
There is love
My heart today.
Missing the funeral
Acting as if it were
Just another day,
So far away.
I’m so sorry
for your loss.
A life is like a garden. Perfect moments can be had, but not preserved, except in memory. Live long and prosper. – Leonard Nimoy
It occurs to me right now that life would be really boring if we were stuck on the same path, without the freedom to change our life circumstances. Not to mention, this would actually be both very saddening and even more maddening, at least for me. Maybe impermanence really is not such a “bad thing.” (For the record, I never really said it was in the first place.)
Then I found this quote, which sums up what I’ve just said, or tried to say:
Thanks to impermanence, everything is possible. – Buddha
Then I found more quotes that I just wanted to share:
It is not impermanence that makes us suffer. What makes us suffer is wanting things to be permanent when they are not. – Thich Nhat Hanh
As a water bead on a lotus leaf, as water on a red lilly, does not adhere, so the sage does not adhere to the seen, the heard, or the sensed. – Buddha
May we all be unattached to permanence and, thus, without suffering.
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