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    those who trespass against us

    pain happens, suffering is optional. holding onto unforgiveness is suffering …

    tiffany
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    it may surprise some to know that hearing & reciting the Lord’s Prayer is one of my favorite parts of being in church …

    as a kid, my mind would turn the word “trespass” over in different directions as if i were inspecting a rock held in my hands, the word repeating even well after the congregation had moved on …

    monday, as i received reiki & craniosacral therapy, two lines from the Lord’s Prayer kept repeating in my mind … & it brought up a quite a bit for me throughout the day …

    “trespass” still strikes me differently than any others within prayer; perhaps its message is a reminder for me to do the work of forgiveness, for in forgiving others we, too, are released from the judgment we’ve held against others …

    for to forgive is to be unburdened of the suffering (the 2nd dart in buddhism*) that we’ve held onto from the pain of what has (often long ago) passed … so to forgive is to be forgiven

    in doing work around forgiveness, i find that the hardest person to forgive is myself…

    forgiveness: a worthy practice, one which is far easier said than done …

    *in buddhism, the 1st dart is the pain from where life “hits us,” the 2nd dart is the suffering we endure from our own reactions to the 1st dart … pain happens, suffering is optional. holding onto unforgiveness is suffering …

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    12 responses to “those who trespass against us”

    1. Mark Lanesbury Avatar
      Mark Lanesbury

      An amazing thing when we finally understand our fears…we see that those fears are the very builder of our judgements, anger, hurt and pain. Understand our fears and those trespasses all lose their power over us. Great post Tiffany, may we all understand them…and be free 😀❤️🙏

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      1. Tiffany Avatar
        Tiffany

        Thank you, Mark! One step at a time, I’m moving through the paces 🫣🙏🏼💜

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        1. Mark Lanesbury Avatar
          Mark Lanesbury

          Indeed Tiffany, it is a lifetimes work so that we will appreciate it truly 😀❤️🙏

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        2. Tiffany Avatar
          Tiffany

          I like this perspective! Thank you for sharing it: I was looking at it differently – especially at times when in those voids 💜🤓🫣

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        3. Mark Lanesbury Avatar
          Mark Lanesbury

          They all vary kind lady, sometimes they hit us quite hard, sometimes subtle…but always guiding us stronger and stronger. I think the hard part is that long period up to that awakening. It usually doesn’t happen until we have understood just ‘life’ up to about 40’s and 50’s, then we reach a place where ‘we don’t want to do this anymore’ in all those break ups and anger bits in those many relationships, be it partner, children, relations or friends…and finally look deeper inside ourselves, find that pain from our childhood and dare to look at that place inside where we have blocked out those we did love and look up to…but now resent that rejection we feel they have done to us. But, when we do we will finally understand that they too have their own fears when we were born and raised us with them, just as we have with our own children. It is in understanding it all a very profound journey so that we will all go through it to feel and understand that very conditional love we are all raised with…so that we will truly understand what unconditional love is when it arrives. Like having a much greater appreciation of happiness if we have experienced sadness to, those opposites have a great purpose, one side never being truly appreciated without the other. It is hard, but a very beautiful place in its realization. Its just a little difficult in the beginning because we have no idea of conditional loves opposite, but when it arrives you will see something so profound that you will be glad of each and every step you have ever taken dear lady. Take a deep breath, take another step, and know each one is building your heart truly. And each hard path can only build an empathy, compassion and love inside you, simply in experiencing it 😀❤️🙏

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        4. Tiffany Avatar
          Tiffany

          Yes, I agree, to more deeply experience one thing, we need to experience its opposite (duality also gives us choices to exert our will). I also believe that these experiences lead us on the journey into knowing/understanding the experiences we do wish to have; creating energetic road signs to follow or to warn us of what to avoid… it becomes challenging when we get stuck on “shoulda, coulda, woulda.” Traps I find are tricky to skirt at times …
          And yes, as a parent of a teen and pre-teen, I see more compassionately what my parents were themselves battling; things we cannot understand very well when our brains are still emerging and developing … for another 10+ years!
          And yes, tho it may not translate, I’m in my mid-life, the precursor to which was when my inner journey began. The more I understood about myself, the less my (now ex-)husband wanted to do w me. It was during this separation -> divorce process that I began blogging…
          That was 8 years ago now, I believe… i have since unpublished all of it (over 1K entries) bc I wanted a fresh start. It’s still all on draft and I may republish some pieces … they are still part of me. Yet, I wanted to post in a different way, bc I see my role in sharing a bit differently. And I also didn’t want my blog (nor me) to be defined by what I had published in the past…

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        5. Mark Lanesbury Avatar
          Mark Lanesbury

          And well put kind lady, your journey will indeed give you as you need to find you. And I love the “shoulda, coulda, woulda”, that truly sums it up beautifully. Our paths really do go on those three words, but as you said, a greater teacher we will not find. You have been sharing well, even in those changes as we go through so many things is truly showing a heart opening. Keep on your path dear lady, it can only share that love within you 😀❤️🙏

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        6. Tiffany Avatar
          Tiffany

          Thank you, Mark, for seeing the shifts. It truly is an ongoing task, to keep the heart open … even when in the midst of difficult life situations… where the habit had been to most harshly judge the person that is me 🫣😉❤️‍🩹 enjoy your day as I wind down my own. Oh and today is the first day of winter for you … such an interesting dichotomy the time and season are 180 deg different between us. 🙏🏼♥️

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        7. Mark Lanesbury Avatar
          Mark Lanesbury

          Yes they are 180 deg difference, but I suppose that is so we can see and feel them in those differences. A friend rang this morning a bit further inland with -4C degree’s, her fireplace was going well 🤣 You have a healing night, and a refreshed day on the morrow kind lady 😀❤️🙏

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          Tiffany

          As always, thank you, Mark, for your kind and supportive words. May your rest tonight be healing, as well! ♥️

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    2. AmyRose🌹 Avatar
      AmyRose🌹

      Oh yes, Tiffany, the hardest person to forgive is ourselves. That takes practice and dedication and Compassion towards ourselves. xo

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        Tiffany

        Yes! Absolutely! Sometimes I think we do this to help ourselves become better people yet the guilt and shame of it can make us feel and do worse. Such a fine balance ♥️

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